Your personal standard/definition of porn

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RecoveringObjectifier

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Care to weigh in, anyone?  To some, any erotica is porn, even if well-crafted literature or artistic nudity.  I realize it's probably not helpful to poll you on what your various triggers are, or fetishes (one person on here mentioned that just seeing bare feet could cause him difficulty.) 
But I just wonder if we're all talking about the same thing when we say 'porn.'  An alcoholic has to avoid anything with alcohol in it.  But going in a Bed Bath & Beyond and seeing a display of glassware is probably not that much of a problem.  Or seeing a nice clear water fountain doesn't cause him to think "hmmm, a fountain full of vodka, I'm diving in!" 

Our lines are bit more blurred, our triggers can be a bit  more abstract, it seems.
 
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vispren

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When I was younger, porn was the standard stuff: boy/girl, girl/girl,  amateur POV stuff.

As things worsened, I developed a foot fetish. It started with solo girl images and videos, ended with hardcore feet videos.
The main problem about this is the fact that it has widened what my brain perceives as porn, which now I have to steer clear from. Makes rebooting/rewiring a bit harder for me.
 
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Promise

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I guess mine are pretty vanilla.  I avoid eyeing up women in the street, risqu? ads on the internet.  Sometimes odd things trigger me, I mean I've been turned on by so much different porn over the years, dipped my toes into loads of odd things so random stuff can cause triggers.  Nothing I care to mention off the top of my head though :p
 
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Jijnyasu

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I think it depends. I find myself turning the channel a lot when a sexy commercial or something comes on. I can't look away quickly enough when a young girl in shorts a little too small is walking by. Are those things porn? Nah. They're not. And they're not what got me into trouble. But they trigger the weird thinking that used to consume my brain. Or they could if I let them. I really hope that in a couple of months, things as tame as that aren't a problem for me. I would assume that I will one day get to a point where seeing a naked woman will be arousing to me, but not trigger a porn binge. But I'll be really cautious about being in any situation where I'll be exposed to much more than you'd see in an R rated movie. I think it will take a good while before I'd have any confidence in myself that I would be able to see some things and not fall right back into old habits. I certainly won't be seeking them out on my computer.

Triggers are weird. There have been times that just seeing a girl walking down the street set me off. And for no reason I could understand at the time. Just something about the way she looked or moved and I was done. I can remember exactly what it felt like. It was a panic. Especially if I was with other people. Because I knew they weren't having this feeling. They probably didn't even notice the thing that set me off. Weird. I haven't had that panic feeling in the five days I've been off porn. I'd love that to just be gone forever. It would be nice to be introduced to an attractive woman and not have 100 creepy things flood into my head immediately. I'm making progress on that. But it's going to take a lot of work.
 
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jjhh

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I think porn is everything I view in order to get sexual pleasure.
So the "artistic nudity" is obvious yes. Music videos and women dancers also.

Real life women can be viewed the same way as porn IMO.
Checking out women on the beach during summer? That's porn for sex addict rebooter!
 
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