17 years old boy-new rebooter-some help!

hello to everyboy!(excuse my English but I'm latin)
I'm 17 years old,I had my first exposure to pornographic materials, long around age 11, a friend from school and I began to see explicit material, watching  ads of porn mobile content in magazines and also through  Internet videos(hot vids and some  soft-pornographic ) we also  masturbated, so i eventually collapse of guilt ... so leave it for a few months (even told my mom) and did not even want to touch my penis.
but when i started junior high school (12 years), I began to google for images of topless, then I began to find magazines of naked women (online) and  i was a couple of years without advancing to more extreme porn but looking for it several times a week and masturbating a lot, especially for moral(non-religious) guilt.
when I turned 15 I try to leave but i could not, i really dont had Good Sciencie information about it ,so i face it like somenthing ?mostly psychological ,and it is not; and i could not manage depresion and anxiety.
after that when i was 16 i went beyond the stage of moral guilt and started looking online-magazines with more explicit pictures of female genitalia then more recently, i hook with photos of a porn actress, and I started watching his videos of lesbian porn(for that time i also noticed that magazines were no longer exciting).
but eventually mental obsession and desire to watch porn, have started to end my concentration and are ruining my life.
So I've been stuck with porn for about 6 years (more or less),during which I have always had anxiety when, spent much without masturbating and watched porn.I've also gone through depressions trying to quit, but i did not have adequate information like now.
I am not sexually active(with a partner), I've only had experience with my hand and mostly using images.
pornography has stabbing my focus, my passion for the things I love, my mood, my physical energy,my emotions,etc.
i can fap without porn but I do it mostly when I'm anxious thinking about sex (mostly pornographic).
I'm not sure if I have a sexual dysfunction. but i never I've never spent more than 5 minutes masturbating, mostly about 30 seconds.
so I saw a few pictures or the first part of a video and fap and maybe  repeated one or 2 times, turned off the computer, and if at any time of day  i could repeat a session of porn and fap i  did it with cravings ...
Im still ANXIOUS ABOUT PORN.
I try to start last week but I relapsed today(not with my classic porn but relapsed). 
Its been a hard day but IM STARTING TO REBOOT RIGHT NOW.

thank for listen(reading).
thanks if you something good to advise, comment...
 

mickey777

Member
I am glad you took the right step and found this forum. I wish I did much earlier myself.  I'm still a newbie to the rebooting process.  The only advice I can give is watch Gary Wilson Ted video --- I found it very inspirational. The other acvice is keep a journal and set a goal. You'll get through this.
 
i have just re-relapsed today...
I realized that I just want to watch porn when I'm anxious and before fap , but after Relapsed, I feel tired and without desire of do it again ...
then I conclude that what gives me the desire to PMO are the withdrawal symptoms.
pornography has changed my brain but i do not actually need it.
I just thought that I need because It have make changes in my brain ,reward circuit and rational brain.
pornography through the brain changes have cloud my mind  but really dont need pornography.
I feel anxiety about PMO because PMO has modified my reward system.

I do not actually need it,I just thought that I need because It have make changes in my brain.
 
I read this advices on the fourum and I start right now:

Learn as much as possible about this addiction, knowledge is power for rebooters. The better understanding you have of how porn can re-wire and actually numb your brain, hopefully the less desirable porn will become.
Keep on educating yourself by reading as much as you can, it will help you identify your triggers and support you in beating this beast.
-Don't spend too much time on sites that are likely to have pictures of nice girls in bikinis pop up.
- Try not to think about this whole process, find things to distract you like doing things with your friends or family.
- Exercising helps a lot, working out helps relieve stress and if you're tired enough you wont have too much craving.
- If you do get porn flashbacks, don't try to push them out on purpose. Instead just try ignoring them and not caring.

thanks!

 
i have relapsed again, i feel like liar, i even plan the momment to watch porn , and i relapsed ...
i feel as if I were two people, one who wants to watch porn and other who wants to leave it...
i need to accept that i need help (from my family)  because i can not  control myself and think clearly when i am anxious...
today i dream with porn and  i wake up feeling anxious, but i do not talk about it with someone else...

i say that i would read and learn about adicction but i do it just once.
I feel that I 'm not  taking this seriously ... but this addiction is real.

when im anxious i feel that  i dont want to leave porn... maybe  it is only my re-wired and foggy brain who dont want to leave porn. but i want to leave it. its ruin my life, my energy and mood for live.

i had my own dreams about life but i am  stuck with this horrible adicction

i hated  to be  stuck on this... i hated depend of a computer and  artificial stimulation to calm my anxiety...

but i am here, re-starting reboot again.
from today I will rebalance my brain...

 

mickey777

Member
Don't be too hard on yourself. Just start again and have faith in yourself that you will get through it. my best advice is to keep busy.  When you start thinking of porn, do 2 things:

1.  Tell that Porn demon that's making you watch Porn to "get the fuck lost"
2.  Think about how you will feel afterwards and ask yourself is it worth it?

Good luck and stay strong ,,,
 
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