High heels as a trigger

[wqtt]

Hello!
I've been rebooting for 15 days so far(no PMO and I don't even touch my dick). I have to say im in one hell of a flatline. However, one of the difficulties that I faced are high heeled women. I think it's a fetish that I developed during my pmo days. Whenever I see a woman with high heels I feel like my sensitized pathway for that fetish is getting triggered and I begin to have cravings. It's summer time and im on vacation, so I see plenty of women on high heels and it's driving me crazy. Do I have to force myself to stop looking at them altogether or it's not a problem? Before I got ED difficulties I never had this fetish and I think I developed it after looking at hooker sites. Does it count as peeking if I see a woman on the street wearing high heels giving me a trigger reaction?

 

[Fappy]

congrats on the 15 days! thats a lot.
well, i would actually advise the opposite. you shouldnt avoid looking at high heels. that might sound counter intuitive, but think about it, high heels arent going away; you can avert your gaze and run away from it all you want, but they aint going no where.
instead, just look at them (not in a creepy way), and investigate how they make you feel. horny? want to PMO? then ask yourself why that is.
look at them and see them for what they are: shoes. stylish footwear that women (and some men...) wear for fashion. and thats all they are. in essence there is nothing sexy about them at all. its your porn-fucked brain that twists the reality of what they are into some weird fetish.
understanding this, i reckon your excitement over them will pass.

 

[joepanic]

I too love a lady in high heels I know that in 2021 they may be considered outdated and sexist and so on. But if some ladies like wearing them then more power to them. Its fashion and nothing more. They are designed to change the shape of the calves and this is still nothing more than a fashion sense. A agree with fappy that you can't just run and hide from them. I think its more important that you explore what made you a porn addict in the 1st place and start your healing there. Like I say I love high heels especially on my wife because of how they look not because its a "fetish". I think its time we stop worrying about "fetishes" and worry about getting to the bottom of why we are/were porn addicts and beating the addiction. In my case after kicking porn It seems any of my so called "fetishes" seems to disappear.

Post often it helps me it helps you

 

[Struggling01]

Fappy provided some great insights. My trigger is female bare feet. They are everywhere in the summer. I am training myself to not fixate on them, rather appreciate the cute feet and move on.