NOFAP WILL DRIVE YOU CRAZY IF YOU THINK TOO MUCH ABOUT IT...........

[Triptonicmaph]

Don't let the "super powers" own you. Don't be a NOFAP slave.

                                        I realized this after my most recent relapses and decided to share this with YOU.  I've been doing it WRONG all this time.


                                                      Every time I started being a little too confident about the benefits of NoFap... I found myself relapsing within the next couple of days. If you think about your NoFap journey throughout your day, it is very easy for you to "get out of track". After constant thinking of this, it might Own you. Don't get to that point where you feel like your who life depends on NoFap and nothing will work out WITHOUT it. That's another form of 'attachment' towards the thing that's trying to 'detatch' you from something else(porn).

              I am telling this because I came to the point where NoFap was on top of head all day long and I would keep thinking of the "superpowers" I get and how I can use them to my benefits and things of this nature.. It really did push me out of track! Now don't get me wrong, this is nothing against NoFap.. it is amazing but if you start LIVING in the Nofap world then you are probably going in the wrong direction.
 
              So my advise to you is, try to NOT think about your NoFap journey. Take it simple. Just like how days were before starting NoFap. Just continue with your life and it will do its thing. You will be recovered in no time. Best Best Best thing to do is, Seriously Get Occupied with something. Be it Gym, Learning a new language, Traveling, Learning a new sport/martial art e.t.c.  I am going to minimize posting in this forum and viewing any other site related to NoFap, until I am recovered..  Because if you are discussing about this topic very often then you are very likely to get owned by it(this obviously applies to people who are still recovering). I will come back and share the Good news when I'm recovered. So that will be, exactly 99 days from now....


                            Just keep yourself busy and don't think much about NoFap.. Do not take it TOO seriously because TOO much of attachments disturbs the balance of life.



Cheers brothers and Sisters.

 

[Promise]

I guess this is kind of what I was talking to William about in his thread.  Is it really a good idea to base your entire life around your reboot, or start working on your life and forgetting about the reboot?

 

[vispren]

Neither. Concentrating 100% on your or Will's approach will lead us to going apeshit like OP said, or simply relapse because what we think we know about life or ourselves is highly debatable, given that we are addicts.

For me it's learning about myself by living life while rebooting. I can't dismiss either one as secondary. I want and need both at once. I can't neglect my family or forget that I'm in reboot.

A successful reboot is weighed in by quality of life and vice versa.

At least, that's my take on it.

 

[Blah432]

Great post- I was thinking the same thing actually about thinking too much about nofap. I have been abstaining much better (although not perfectly) when finding a nice balance where I am aware but not obsessed and reading psych studies all day about fapping/P/nofap etc... I actually think those things were triggering in a sense and find now that I will go entire days where I don't really think about it which is great because lets face it- how can you maintain such focus on a single issue without burning out?

 

[persian29]

great advice man. very logical and i agree with you

 

[Triptonicmaph]

How can you maintain such focus on a single issue without burning out?

Emptying my mind and Concentrating on my breathe for a few seconds whenever I 'go out of track' has really helped me. In addition 15 mins of meditation per day could be an  excellent habit.  Hope this helps.

 

[vispren]

CrazyGopher, I agree.

As you said some of us need to put in a lot of effort to remain on track. This is mighty close to putting all other aspects of life in second place and it kinda makes us a bit selfish. This approach isn't necessarily bad, but it's not gonna fly for those of us who have families and responsibilities to the people in our surrounding.

Then again, if I let my guard down and put reboot in second place, I catch myself gawking at my wife, lusting, dopamine craving, brain battling and that can lead to relapse.

Us addicts don't have much character which would act as a safety net, allowing us to relax and take our days as they come. This is in no way universal and I don't want to generalise and put everyone in the same basket, but it is how it is. Otherwise we wouldn't be addicts, but something like recreational fappers.

I'm a husband and a father and for me the right way to do this, is to try and balance between the two and take life and reboot together. I have days when it works, I have days when it doesn't and when that happens I take a timeout and go do shit to get myself refocused and back in the zone (housework, grociery shopping, playing the guitar, etc). Once I'm cool, I get back to my everyday life and obligations. In my case this has proved to be effective - in a bit over a month of hardmode I got tempted only a few times and was able to shake the dopamine cravings and urges off fairly easily. Not saying that it is an enormous success, but I'm getting there. This is my first reboot attempt and I'm really reaping the benefits of all this.