Hello Everyone - 25 days ago I posted on here to commemorate day one of what I hope to be my journey back to sexual wellness. The is day 26 for me of no jacking off, no cumming, no porn, no sexual contact with anyone. It has been torture but it's also been weirdly joyous to not give in every time an alluring image dances through my mind. I've been keeping my own journal - using a pen and an actual notebook - and it's deeply satisfying to write the date and the number of the day, meaning "Day 3" for example, for the third day I went without the aforementioned activities. I have noticed that a few days I've woken up with a raging hardon that's encouraging. I've also had some great prolonged erections (during the day mostly) just sitting at work letting my mind wander. I still obsess over porn. In fact I've actually missed some of the faces from the ones I used to watch repeatedly as if they are/were people I know. But, I've also gotten into some really detailed fantasies about what I want to do when I hook up with once and (hopefully) future partners. I do have a couple of questions. I've read several accounts on this forum and I'm wondering do most people continue having sex with someone else and just quit the masturbation/porn part of it? I'm trying to retrain my brain so that it doesn't assume that porn is a natural extension of jacking off or having sex with another person. So I've shut down everything to do with the bone for a while. Does that sound like the right approach. Does anyone have any insight on the ideal length of time for this? I have read a lot of what's on this very helpful site but it's all over the place. Any guidelines anyone is willing to share would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance and happy weekend.
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Hello,
Opinions differ. My best guess is that the way you are going is the fastest route to a complete reboot.
I am married and have had a few o's with the wife. I have also mo'd. Some say real sex will help you rewire, but others say it is best to wait a while until your reboot is further along. Same thing with mo. Many say it's ok once you get to a point that porn fantasy isn't running through your mind and you can do it on sensation alone. Some feel it's best to give up mo for life.
regardless of what you feel is right for you, pretty much everyone agrees that porn is the real problem. Stat away from porn at all cost, now and forever. If a mo here and there slows your progress, so be it, you are still making progress. Any porn at all will cause you to regress.
Opinions differ. My best guess is that the way you are going is the fastest route to a complete reboot.
I am married and have had a few o's with the wife. I have also mo'd. Some say real sex will help you rewire, but others say it is best to wait a while until your reboot is further along. Same thing with mo. Many say it's ok once you get to a point that porn fantasy isn't running through your mind and you can do it on sensation alone. Some feel it's best to give up mo for life.
regardless of what you feel is right for you, pretty much everyone agrees that porn is the real problem. Stat away from porn at all cost, now and forever. If a mo here and there slows your progress, so be it, you are still making progress. Any porn at all will cause you to regress.