From Hell to Heaven

Davidoff

Member
Hi everyone, I'm 23 years old and from The Netherlands so I hope my English is good enough for everyone to understand.

So here is my story.
I watched porn and masturbated on a daily basis since my 14 till last sunday (9 nov 2014). I never thought porn would damage your brain so much! Since my 14 i had 4 girlfriends. With girl nr 1-3 I had no problems with getting an erection and making love  but with my last girlfriend ( 2 years ago) I had much more difficulties to get it hard but it still worked if i pushed myself hard and take a lot of time.

I didn't think anything off it so i didn't look for information or even thought i had a problem. But last tuesday everything changed. 2 days earlier on sunday i last masturbated. I did this becouse the tuesday I had a sexdate with a very beautiful girl At that point I never heard about reboot nation or anything associated with porn and ED. I met her 2 weeks earlier on a birthday party and we decided to be fuckbuddy's (hot, i thought at that time)

Well that tuesday had to become a very good day, but it went horrible. I'm not a nervous person, so it wasn't anxiety becouse i feel confident about my skills and body. I went to her place and after talking and drinking some coke we slowly started kissing etc and we went to her bedroom. She started stripping and grinding etc but I didn't get excited. At that moment I knew I wouldn't get hard that day. after 30 min of trying and pleasuring her, I decided to throw the towel. I never felt so bad and unmanly. I not yet talked to her till this day.

So when I came home that night I immidiatly googled to find out what my problem was, then I first read about porn that screws with your brain so you can't get an errection only with porn. When I read about the consequences of masturbating on porn I learned that, that was my problem. I was also very tired for a long time, no motivation, not felt much about picking up women etc etc.

My goal is that I can make love to women without having problems with my penis. I just want an erection when we are at foreplay and normal sex, not to have watch porn to look how a girl get gangbanged by 10 guys. Also I want more motivation en focus in my life. I already not masturbated for 5 days. those 5 days i felt empty, like a zombie with no energy at all. I hope this will get better soon.

I want to thank everyone for reading and commenting, I can use all the support ofcourse.  Once again, sorry if my English not that good.




 

positive_beginning

Active Member
Your English is perfect .Need not worry about that.We are all from different countries ,religion,languages fighting the same demon.Welcome to the Reboot Nation.
Your goal should be to eliminate porn from your life altogether.Nothing more ,nothing less.Our problems are between our ears,which is the result of abusing our brain.
Check out the link in my signature ,by William.It would surely help you. 

Edit:a typo
 

Davidoff

Member
@positive_beginning

Thanks for your reply. Ofcourse my goal is also to eliminate porn forever. however I think watchting together with a girl can be very exciting though. But ofcourse I don't want to watch alone anymore jerk off. I read the thread of William and was very helpful, thank you for showing me the topic:)

 

Yelashade

Member
Welcome to the Forum! I agree with what you said about watching porn on occasion with a partner, that is pretty exciting! However, for the purposes of your reboot, you have to eliminate that idea completely. In other words, that is NOT going to happen. Rewiring with your sex buddy will really help! If she's an understanding girl, then she will try this with you. Think of it as a really long tease before that magical sex we all dream of!

In the mean time, KEEP YOURSELF DISTRACTED! Hit the gym, learn how to dance, play a sport, see your buds etc. do anything that gets your focus off of P and fantasy and more into your life and your self worth. Good luck on your journey and keep posting!
 

Davidoff

Member
@Yeleshade thanks for your comment!  8) 

It's not my intention to watch porn with a girl now ofcourse but maybe when the problems are over I can do that occassionally.
I agree on the distraction part ofcourse but I feel out of energy these days however i go to the club tonight:) and from monday i try to hit the gym again and I play football and darts when can. I see you already are 45 days without PMO keep it up! 
 

Davidoff

Member
Day 6:
Today was an easy day and felt bit more energetic today. No urge to masturbate or horny thoughts. Spend my time housekeeping, hang out with a friend a watched football/soccer.  Tomorrow i want to start at the gym again. Good luck everyone:)
 

Davidoff

Member
Day 7:

I had a little urge to watch porn but i ignored it pretty easily. Also I feel restless, I feel tired but at the same time it seems I have lots of energy also. So I will go to the gym tonight, we will see how it goes. But today I also realized how much porn and images to suduice you to watch porn there is. You look at 10 website and at least 4 of them has images of porn or hot girls"wanting" you on it. Never realized they where everywhere :p.

But so far so good, not really have much of difficulties so far!
 

Davidoff

Member
Day8:

Man I think I made good process! I woke up with a tremendous morning wood.. at day 8, was so long ago. It stayed for several minutes so I'm a happy man. Today i worked, did some clothes shopping and went to gym again. But I had my first big urge to pmo today. When I was shopping I saw 2 hot girls passing by, I looked at their body's and felt horney is fuck. For about 2 hours it felt like I wanted to fuck every woman with a heartbeat. Then luckily it gone away but when I was home and wanted to clean up my PC I saw a naked picture of a girl I know.. I totally forgot I had it. Then my urge was big again but I immidiatly went to shower and then it was gone again. I had a morning wood plus 2 times i resisted to pmo. Progress progress progresssss!
 

Davidoff

Member
Day9:

So far so good still. No urge to PMO and nothing really exciting to be honest. bit gym again and daily routine. For now it's quite easy. But I feel more excited already when just looking to girls in bikini on tv or something. Think good progress right?:)
 
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