Welcome Mr. Crown,
You have taken likely the hardest step anyone suffering from addiction has to take. As an addict myself, I too saw that P had consumed my life. My attempts to limit my usage or to cut back were futile and broken promises were made to myself and to my wife. The way I see it, some may disagree, is that addiction is an incurable disease. There is no one cure, but there are many avenues in which to recover and restore sanity. I personally focus almost all of my attention to recovery and in all aspects of my life. I constantly post on this forum, but I also am working on a 12 step program for Sex Addicts which had helped me tremendously. The important thing to remember is that you are not alone in this. It is not an easy road to recover for someone truly addicted, but many have walked this road and are willing to help you on your way.
For me, I had to break away from things that felt comforting. I made a pledge of total abstinence for 60 days (yet am still abstinent now). I recommend anyone taking at least a 30 day break from any sexual contact with someone. Certainly abstinence is different for everyone. This time will help you gain clarity about your problem and might help you identify other troubling sexual behaviors and urges. I also recommend therapy and a 12 step program. Face to face time with someone who knows addiction or is themselves an addict is very helpful. I also recommend journaling daily and staying away from any possible triggers. TV, Facebook, anything remotely sexual may set you up for relapse. And finally, don't beat yourself up. Your addiction is not who you really are and coming to this forum makes that clear. Just work on fighting back your addiction so as to keep it from causes anyone else harm, anyone, including yourself.
