my partner like to watching and keep it the pics kids (V.V.Y)

[lovechairunnisah]

i dont know what to do,
i had catch my partner like to see and  feeling trun on with kids porn ( i mean old and very very very young ).
i trying to help him and i have worried so much because sometime he talked and  explain to me, "if i like to watch doesnt mean i will doing with my kids". (even we dont have kids)
becuase i feeling uncomfy so i told him to never touch anymore this porn. And many times he broken his promises :'( :'( :'( and imake me upset, even i have tried to explain to him low of rule porn.


sorry about my english :

 

[Yelashade]

lovechairunnisah,

Personally, I never judge people's P fetishes, but that is pretty sickening. He HAS to stop watching that. If he gets caught, he is quite frankly fucked; this could be the end of his career, his life, he might have to be put on some sort of sex offender's register or something.

You have to tell him to stop, or you'll walk out on him. But tell him that he has your support to get through this if he is willing. Show him this website and how P affects people's brains and sexual functions. Make sure he knows exactly where you stand and what is expected of him though. You have to put your foot down.

I hope this helps! Keep us posted on what happens

 

[toofat]

I'm sorry, but I'm not sure if I understand. It could also be that I'm not wanting to believe what I'm reading. Does your spouse like to watch porn that has young children in it (under the age of 18)? Or is it that he likes to watch the type of porn that depicts the people as "barely legal"? These are two very different things.

If it's that he likes to watch the porn with children under the age of 18, then I think there may be a much larger problem at hand than just porn addiction.

No matter the type of material he's watching, if it's a porn addiction or simply a fetish, the simple fact of the matter is that it's something your uncomfortable with and you want it to stop. You have options here, and so does he. Your options are to figure out with yourself if this is a marriage breaker, and if so, make it known to him. Let him know that this is not something that you are willing to live with and that his options are you or the porn.

Be honest with yourself here. Is this something worth ending your marriage over? For a lot of people-myself included-it is. You are not alone there. If it is worth ending your marriage over, are you prepared to take the necessary action? Moving out, kicking him out, filing for divorce, etc. All of these things are much easier said than done, and often take a lot of time and pain.

You have to look out for yourself and your own needs first. I hope the best of luck to you in figuring out what those things are and obtaining them.

 

[lovechairunnisah]

firstly, thank you both for your replys.
in my case my partner had watching porn of child (5 old, even a lit baby) and many times i have tried to help and support him.
now, I have decision and also explained to him all stuffs it is The aberrant habit, make me feeling uncomfy and i told him "if you watching again, i will bring him to police" because many times i have catched him and talked about his habit, but he think its all just a small problem and never serious and commitment thats why he always did.
if he can not commit then I will commit to make decisions and take action with legally.

Thank You

 

[SO Reboot Partner]

firstly, thank you both for your replys.
in my case my partner had watching porn of child (5 old, even a lit baby) and many times i have tried to help and support him.
now, I have decision and also explained to him all stuffs it is The aberrant habit, make me feeling uncomfy and i told him "if you watching again, i will bring him to police" because many times i have catched him and talked about his habit, but he think its all just a small problem and never serious and commitment thats why he always did.
if he can not commit then I will commit to make decisions and take action with legally.

Thank You

Report it. Period.

This is a crime. Ignoring makes you an accomplice. No emoji for this.

 

[lovechairunnisah]

i will.. if he doing again, now so far i trying to support and helping him.

 

[Steam rolled]

Viewing it once is one to many!!!!!!!!!!

Hes needs PROFESSIONAL help if not arrested ASAP.

Period!!!

 

[turbodiesel]

Hey there!
  Im just going to add that I think this is unrelated to the experiences of most on here, and I am not sure anyone on this board can provide enough help or insight into a problem like this. A professional counselor would be needed for something like this, honestly after reading this thread am sick to my stomach. I don't know what part of the world you and your husband live in but I would think in many countries what he does is a "life ruining" offense. Best of luck in dealing with this issue.

 

[enablerblue]

This is not OK, not on any level. (legal) Porn addiction and child porn are two entirely different things.
You need to leave immediately and report this to the police. This is beyond addiction, this is illness.

 

[Innocence]

This porn use is indeed sickening, I'm very sorry to hear that this is happening to your husband.
It's very worrying that he's into this, a lot of porn addicts have called to like very weird fetishes but this is indeed beyond the limit. I personally wouldn't directly go to the police, first to a counselor or a psychologist who can help.

The choices are all yours, but please don't hesitate to take action.

 

[Will500]

From what you write it is not clear to me if your partner really wants to give up P.  I think it is worth thinking about this.  If he has no intention of giving it up I feel you should leave him; you certainly won't be able to make him stop unless he realises it is wrong.  If it is really images of child abuse he is looking at (which any image of a child under the age of consent would be) then as others have said, that is incredibly serious.  Find out if he really wants to stop.  If he does, he should get help.  If not, you should leave.  Do not accept false, half-hearted promises.