21 years old, ED since 16

[Tyler_Durden]

Hey guys,

I recently discovered this whole reboot thing and it honestly was a release to finally find a cause for my ED. I've been masturbating since I was 10, and PMO since 13. With 16, I got my first gf, and within 3 months, we tried to have sex. Needless to say, it didn't work. First I thought it was because I was nervous, but it didn't work the next x-times we tried either. That's when I discovered I have ED.

Now, as a 16 year old male, it was quite uncomfortable to talk about ED. I didn't change anything and just hoped it would go away. With 18, I got the courage to go to an urologist. I did blood tests, but everything was normal. Went to a hospital for a physical examination (including a quite painful syringe to the penis), but blood flow was normal as well. I honestly didn't know what to do. I knew it wasn't because I was too nervous, as I had been with my gf for 2 years then.

Time passed, and the fact that I couldn't have sex with my gf really made me feel worthless. Sure, I could please her with my tongue and fingers, but not having your penis work feels like you've failed as a man. Meanwhile, the whole time I was PMO'ing almost everyday. Most of the time I couldn't even get a full erection, but still finished.

Now the odd thing is, I don't have any problems masturbating without porn, only using my fantasy. My gf also could get me to finish by handjobs. But I needed a constant flow of arousal to stay halfway hard, and never got fully so.

I'm 21 now. I still have my gf. She even agreed to try out with other girls, but I had the same results. Even a threesome (FFM) couldn't get me hard. I feel depressed and have quite a few confidence issues, though I don't know if it's only my ED to blame.

I feel like I've finally found the cause of my ED. What do you guys think, is this a PIED?
Also, could someone give me tips concerning reboot with a partner, as in, if I go hard mode, is it okey to have her give me hj/bj?

Also, thanks for reading guys!


P.S. I've been going hard mode for a week now, but I don't know if I should still have sexual experiences with my gf. I have no problem avoiding porn, and while it's hard to keep from masturbating, I'm motivated enough not to do so. I've had the same-ish situation with 15, when I got from 230lbs to 165lbs in 6 months, while maintaining a 2000kcal/day diet and doing lots of workouts.

 

[OSS]

Definitely PIED, I very rarely use the word definitely but there's nothing else it could be considering you've checked bloods, been to the urologist etc.

You my friend are in a very good position.

My recommendations:
100% no masturbation, no artificial stimuli of any kind
If you feel like you need an orgasm to stay off porn or to avoid masturbation get a hj/bj instead
If after 3-4 months you notice 0 benefits, stop all orgasm completely for a few months (you can still get bj/hj, just don't go to orgasm)
The more time spent with your girlfriend the better (not even sexual stuff)

Weight loss is known to cause temporary libido drop / ED, I've heard some speculate it can be semi permanent if a teenager drastically looses weight. But if your hormones are fine then it can't be that (namely hypothyroidism and testosterone, although testosterone would have to be very low to effect erections)

 

[Tyler_Durden]

Thanks for the reply!

Eventhough I'm not cured yet, it really is a relief to finally have found a cause for the ED. My urologist told me he can't help as it isn't a physical condition, and as a student I can't afford a psychologist. I guess the worst feeling is knowing that something's wrong but not knowing what exactly.

I will try your suggestions. Having low libido, I still don't have any urge to orgasm, so hopefully that won't be a problem. Do you have any source for the link between ED and weight loss? I've searched it before but most people seem to think losing weight is actually beneficial in case of an ED.