When I'm with my gf she gives me head and I've been able to get consistently pretty hard (90-95% with one 99%). When I try to touch myself without any sexual fantasies or thoughts I can't seem to get hard. I don't fantasize about anything with my gf so obviously the erection are true with her. Just wondering wtf is the deal here!
SO CONFUSED Please Help!!!!!
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My theory: you probably associate the headjob with porn. There are certain acts that I'm OK with but others do nothing. I couldn't MO even with fantasy and I needed porn to get me there at one stage so my PIED was pretty severe.
I tried to reboot with a partner and found I couldn't, even after 10 months porn free. I took pills to keep my girlfriends happy and I didn't see much improvement with PIED. So in my case I decided to be single to reboot but a lot of guys do it with a partner so everyone is different. I guess you need to establish what works for you. Good luck.
I tried to reboot with a partner and found I couldn't, even after 10 months porn free. I took pills to keep my girlfriends happy and I didn't see much improvement with PIED. So in my case I decided to be single to reboot but a lot of guys do it with a partner so everyone is different. I guess you need to establish what works for you. Good luck.
I understand what you're saying but the thing is I don't associate it with porn at all! Like at all. When I'm with her I'm focused on her and nothing else. I have been seeing improvements in the 3 months I've been rebooting. I start to get aroused just from kissing her, I get MW more frequently and a lot harder, I got a random boner the other day, and I've consistently gotten hard with my girl. I've been able to MO to the thought of a girl I know about a month and a half ago. I've plateaued out recently because I've MO to some dirty texts my gf sent me a few times when we sext which is something I'm going to stop. My case has been described as not that bad compared to others and I'm not sure where you were at when you started, but I know for sure it can't be because I associate my sexual interactions with her to porn. What're your thoughts about this?
Untolerable
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Having a partner helped me a great deal because it motivated me to be P free to please her and in the process my body.
Don't bother masturbating at all - save yourself for the real deal.
Don't bother masturbating at all - save yourself for the real deal.
concupiscent
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My thoughts:
If you try to masturbate without any sexual thoughts. How are you going to get turned on then? You only really get hard when you fantasize about women. If your mind is blank, your brain isn't going to send a signal down to your penis to get hard. It's not like lifting weights where you can get a pump.... There is nothing wrong with fantasizing about your girlfriend. Just not pornography as the pornstars aren't having sex with you and never will...
At least that is what I think...
If you try to masturbate without any sexual thoughts. How are you going to get turned on then? You only really get hard when you fantasize about women. If your mind is blank, your brain isn't going to send a signal down to your penis to get hard. It's not like lifting weights where you can get a pump.... There is nothing wrong with fantasizing about your girlfriend. Just not pornography as the pornstars aren't having sex with you and never will...
At least that is what I think...