From 4 weeks till she arrives to 8 days!!!

[HumbleRich]

I screwed up.  After talking about our vacation together for more than a month, Jenn (my girlfriend) is set to arrive in 8 days.  8 days!!!  As soon as she and I started talking about her coming, I decided that I would get rid of porn and compulsive masturbation.

It made sense.  It would allow me to level out emotionally.  For my self confidence and esteem to come back, to reconnect with myself so that I could reconnect with her, emotionally and physically, when she got here. 

Did I do it.  No.  I kept going.  Now there are 8 days left!  8 days!!!  What could possibly happen in 8 days?  I don't have any ED problems, but compulsive masturbation is not exactly conducive to loving sex, which has been implied. 

The worst part.  Well, I mean the best: I am planning on proposing to her soon upon her arrival, maybe a day or two after she gets here.  I wanted it to be perfect.  For everything to be perfect, especially me.  I have been working on the speech, putting it all together, and I wanted to deliver it perfectly.  That requires strong self confidence.  Which, again, porn erodes.

Hopefully, by knuckling down and getting these 8 days done, with no porn or masturbation, I may still have a chance to make a difference.

Don't get me wrong.  I plan on getting rid of porn and compulsive masturbation permanently.  But I was especially focused on this short term goal in preparation for her arrival.

What good is 8 days though?  Will it even make a difference?

 

[thespecialjuan]

to be honest, probably not i would suggest for you to acquire viagra or start with oral so you can get her in the zone and it will also help yourself but being quite honest, get some viagra just in case man

 

[Username]

thespecialjuan, I'm afraid you missed the point: HumbleRich says he's not suffering from ED or anything so why the pills?

HumbleRich, here's what I think: Eight days are not going to make a difference even though it might be unpleasant to realize that. If you're addicted, it requires way more effort to leave your detrimental behavior behind. Of course, I don't want to discourage you from proposing - that's a bold and hopefully well-considered move. Maybe her accepting your proposal will spark some new motivation in you - who knows? But if you're really feeling down and out, you should ponder your situation carefully.
Good luck!

 

[Standingtall]

My advice would be to let her know what your going through. Trust me it sucks. But it's the best way to beat this thing. I told my wife 5 different times, and after each time she thought I quit. It finally took her walking in on me for me to want to change bad enough. Don't get me wrong, 8 days is a great start. You should be proud if you can make it that far. But if you really want to change its going to take a lot longer than that. And your going to Relapse a lot. It's helpful to understand this, and to educate her on the subject too, because if you do end up marrying her, she will find out one way or another. Good luck, I know you can do it, it will just take time

 

[olafthewise]

jeez you guys!
here is the advise; on the computer, eliminate all saved pics of any kind that are erotic or nude or suggestive to nudity or sexual. Throw out/delete movies that have any graphic sex (do I need to draw pictures for understanding?),  clean out addresses of saved sites that go directly to porn sites, also eliminate sites that advertise erotic or porn sites. Throw out magazines and other publications that have suggestive pictures, etc.

ok, now your time on the computer should not be comfortable, leave it in the kitchen or some other place that's uncomfortable so you can do email and check the latest u-tube video on marriage proposals, etc. This uncomfortableness should help deter any comfy surfing of erotic sites. limit time on the computer as well. Cancel your cable movie channel. Go with basic. make showers and your "nude-alone" time, limited.
Find other productive things to do. Meet with friends, church or club members, gym buddies, co-workers in order to "get out there." Your relations with the girlfriend will go better if you do this. Do not be groveling to her by begging her for things and do not be "pussy whipped" into doing something she wants that you hate. 
You love her to the point of wanting the best for her. To do this you need to be your own man who commands his own work and has the means to care for her. You also should be mature enough to handle life confidently. She will see this. If you are desperate and are focusing just on sex, in a whimpering way with your dick in your hand in front of the computer when alone, she will detect this and look elsewhere for a man who has self-discipline and swagger. Life is more than pictures on a computer screen. If you slip and look at some nude pics one day, shut it all off without thinking and go outside. walk around, get a coffee and wake up! it will take time. eliminating PMO can be done in a short time if you plan your days. If you need a release (M) once in awhile, make the choice just don't do it with pics.
hope this helps. 

 

[Jason]

Awesome, Olaftthewise I love your tough words.  Thank you!!!!!

 

[Gotlife]

Seriously?! 8 days is plenty to feel good about your commitment to stop PMO! One day is enough to feel good if you do not PMO. For an addict thats a serious step feel good about it and be greatful to youself. If you think that you have to be perfect in order to marry her then you may want to think twice before you propose.