I just MO in the shower to my memories (my gf giving me a handjob and the ass of this girl I saw at the mall a week ago). It took me like 1 minute to cum and I was only like 50% hard. What doesn't make sense to me is I was able to get rock hard with my girlfriend the last two times (first time we just edged, second time I came in her mouth). I've been frequently getting morning wood and much harder recently. I decided to MO today to help build stamina but I ended up cumming in 1 minute and while being 50% hard. I don't know what I did wrong or what is wrong other than PIED problems. Help please
How Do You Masturbate Correctly?
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PresidentCoolidge
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I've asked the same question before on this forum. Technically, the answer is this; you should be able to masturbate with a full erection either from just the sensation alone or from fantasizing about real girls. If you can't get a full erection from either of those two scenarios then you either aren't horny or you just need more time to reboot. However, the problem is that guys who have wired their brains to high speed Internet porn, from a young age, have a very difficult time distinguishing between porn and masturbation. After nine months of no porn and no masturbation, I started introducing masturbation into my routine. At first, I was able to cum without any fantasy whatsoever. Before I knew it, I was starting to need fantasy. Ultimately porn flashbacks started creeping into my fantasies and this eventually led to me relapsing. I think the best thing for guys in our situation (guys who grew up jerking off to high speed Internet porn clips) is to give up masturbation. You don't need it...besides, giving up masturbation is a surefire way to giving up porn because if you vow to never masturbate, there's absolutely no reason to look at porn. You understand?
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The reboot is non linear and being with a girl is a lot more stimulating (for most) than masturbating to fantasy.
Basically if you're not with a women try avoid it. You have more important things to worry about than building stamina, remember your dick doesn't have to even work to rewire. Rewiring can be as simple as watching a movie lying down with eachother
Basically if you're not with a women try avoid it. You have more important things to worry about than building stamina, remember your dick doesn't have to even work to rewire. Rewiring can be as simple as watching a movie lying down with eachother
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Look into kegels / reverse kegelsgrahamman said:
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@StevewStevew said:
For some people if they masturbate they won't even be able to get it up in bed. But if you're either unable to get it up or unable to last a few minutes then your priorities shouldn't be sex anyway, it should be focusing on rewiring like kissing, cuddling and avoiding anything that could slow the healing process like masturbation. For us rebooters quick hook-ups and one night stands are unrealistic, if you have a relationship with a partner who understands you, they're not likely going to be too concerned if you're unable to last for a certain period of time.
@Grahamman
You're M session may have set you back, it's unknowable, how much it set you back is also unknowable. Kegels and reverse kegels help with the muscle of the pelvic floor which influence erections and ejaculation. Google "kegels, reverse kegels, pe gym" and you'll find some good articles
Chaos Mind
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To me it sounds good that you were able to orgasm to the thoughts of your gf at all. 10 days after quitting myself I've had the first sex with my gf for many months were I was totally focussed on her and ONLY her. No other women in my mind, no imaginations about different styles or settings. Just her and me and our bed.
I'm not sure if it's the right thing to MO only to last longer in bed. If you are completely healthy it might be, but us here, we have another matter altogether, don't we? I think the most important thing is to get to really enjoy sex as intimate time together. It's not only about how long you last. It's about how you and her work together as a couple. The foreplay, the touch, the looks. The cuddling afterwards. I bet what your gf really needs is a man who cares and who shows her she is desirable. Old porn You couldn't do that properly, but new rebooted You can do. Better 1 - 2 minutes of pure unsophisticated sex with all the trappings than 10 minutes of hard work just to do the job.
I'm not sure if it's the right thing to MO only to last longer in bed. If you are completely healthy it might be, but us here, we have another matter altogether, don't we? I think the most important thing is to get to really enjoy sex as intimate time together. It's not only about how long you last. It's about how you and her work together as a couple. The foreplay, the touch, the looks. The cuddling afterwards. I bet what your gf really needs is a man who cares and who shows her she is desirable. Old porn You couldn't do that properly, but new rebooted You can do. Better 1 - 2 minutes of pure unsophisticated sex with all the trappings than 10 minutes of hard work just to do the job.