So I'll start with my youth. As long as I can remember I was obsessed with sex and sexual images. As far back as 5th grade I would obsess over girls. It was then that I saw my first magazine and was hooked! I would MO after age 14 or so with or without pictures when I had the chance. I eventually stopped cold turkey. I had seen a movie or two at this point. It was very hard to get time with a movie though.
I was active with a couple of girls at age 15 - 18. No O until age 17. I could ALWAYS keep it hard but O was sometimes hard to 'find'. No response with condom so....I stupidly stopped using them. Luckily - no accidents.
And begun PMO again. This time to movies I had found. Only when I had the chance.
Again I quit cold turkey for a year. And begun again in my late teens. More hardcore mags. I would pick up one at a time and keep it for weeks. Sometimes a couple of months. And went through a dry spell with the ladies.
Then I met another cutie. And we messed around for a few months - and then I met another. I began PMO again with mags. At age 21 I was a daddy and stopped the PMO. Still active with my girl.
And begun again with hardcore mags. By age 23 or so - I had an internet connection at a relatives house. And would spend time burning 30 second clips onto CD's to play in my DVD player for PMO every evening. Still had a VERY active sex life with my wife. I would pick up a hardcore mag every few months and use it for PMO. But the movies were insane dopamine rushes. I continued PMO daily.
I refused to buy a computer until 2007. For my own reason that I knew it was over if I did. And it was. I DL'd porn when I could and would PMO every evening. Still active with no problems with my wife.
Then in 2011 I noticed a difference. I was less and less attracted to her. We had been through some personal struggles - I was PMOing every day and felt less and less like having sex. I had iPod's, computers, iPads, all for PMO. I vowed to rejuvenate our sex life and we did. VERY successfully - but PMO continued. And sometime in late 2012 I began to experience slight PIED. My 'tastes' had shifted and I was experiencing HOCD. Absolutely NO attraction to men in real life. Multiple windows, different subjects, hardcore straight race focused stuff, extreme fetishes, with ZERO desire for anything like this in real life. I could only O if I imagined the most horrible scenarios. Not always, though. Up until late 2014 I could keep it up and enjoy sex. Sometime in April or so it changed along with deep rooted marriage problems from the past. I was not always consistent. I would PMO and reset myself by dutily having sex with my wife. Once we had sex I could keep an erection through sex. In July I found yourbrainonpron.com. I vowed to reset completely.
The longest I lasted was 8 days. Pathetic. My wife and I had begun to experience more problems from the past and sex was a chore. We couldn't reconcile and are going our separate ways. Our last experience together ended horribly. It's been months now....I was barely able to finish semi-erect.
I have been avoiding PMO as much as I could for months now, but had several relapses. Still lookimg at P with no MO. I can definitely say that I've PMO'd far less since July than I ever had in my recent life. For the past couple of months - only PMO on weekends. But still looking at P. My last was Friday the 26th. Before that it was the 20th. I have met someone new and quite exciting, but can't keep an erection! She was very understanding and we both realized it was probably for the best at this point (no protection). I MO'd on Dec 29th with her 'support' but wasn't even fully erect at O. Since the 26th I have had only slight response. But limp and shriveled. Only morning wood as of the last few days. I do notice that the shrivel is kinda going away. I am getting some feeling back in this thing and feel like it will work as designed but am NOT gonna test it. Hot shower water feels nice again (it had been years), and I get a small tingle and reaction at certain sights, sounds, smells during the day.
But my libido is and has been low for a while now. Maybe 2 months or so? Last PMO (26th) was horrible and forced and the O was nowhere near as strong as on the 29th (MO). I feel like I am resetting, but slowly. Am I in the middle of a reset? I try not to focus on my last PMO, but more the fact that I've been avoiding it. I was still looking at P, just no MO. That all stopped on the 29th.
I'm fighting cravings to look at P and actually want only to have a real life partner. I'm feeling actual emotions (it had been years) and have though so clearly for the past few months. My ADHD is under control, I have emotions, I want to love, I actually want to do things. I've bee more social than I have in years. I'm hoping I was slowly disassociating P with O over the past few months. And now that Ive stopped completely that things will accelerate.
I have NO desire to look at P. I don't want anything to do with it.
Support please? Anyone with a similar situation? Experience? I'm scared. I want to work and feel like a whole human being again.
I was active with a couple of girls at age 15 - 18. No O until age 17. I could ALWAYS keep it hard but O was sometimes hard to 'find'. No response with condom so....I stupidly stopped using them. Luckily - no accidents.
And begun PMO again. This time to movies I had found. Only when I had the chance.
Again I quit cold turkey for a year. And begun again in my late teens. More hardcore mags. I would pick up one at a time and keep it for weeks. Sometimes a couple of months. And went through a dry spell with the ladies.
Then I met another cutie. And we messed around for a few months - and then I met another. I began PMO again with mags. At age 21 I was a daddy and stopped the PMO. Still active with my girl.
And begun again with hardcore mags. By age 23 or so - I had an internet connection at a relatives house. And would spend time burning 30 second clips onto CD's to play in my DVD player for PMO every evening. Still had a VERY active sex life with my wife. I would pick up a hardcore mag every few months and use it for PMO. But the movies were insane dopamine rushes. I continued PMO daily.
I refused to buy a computer until 2007. For my own reason that I knew it was over if I did. And it was. I DL'd porn when I could and would PMO every evening. Still active with no problems with my wife.
Then in 2011 I noticed a difference. I was less and less attracted to her. We had been through some personal struggles - I was PMOing every day and felt less and less like having sex. I had iPod's, computers, iPads, all for PMO. I vowed to rejuvenate our sex life and we did. VERY successfully - but PMO continued. And sometime in late 2012 I began to experience slight PIED. My 'tastes' had shifted and I was experiencing HOCD. Absolutely NO attraction to men in real life. Multiple windows, different subjects, hardcore straight race focused stuff, extreme fetishes, with ZERO desire for anything like this in real life. I could only O if I imagined the most horrible scenarios. Not always, though. Up until late 2014 I could keep it up and enjoy sex. Sometime in April or so it changed along with deep rooted marriage problems from the past. I was not always consistent. I would PMO and reset myself by dutily having sex with my wife. Once we had sex I could keep an erection through sex. In July I found yourbrainonpron.com. I vowed to reset completely.
The longest I lasted was 8 days. Pathetic. My wife and I had begun to experience more problems from the past and sex was a chore. We couldn't reconcile and are going our separate ways. Our last experience together ended horribly. It's been months now....I was barely able to finish semi-erect.
I have been avoiding PMO as much as I could for months now, but had several relapses. Still lookimg at P with no MO. I can definitely say that I've PMO'd far less since July than I ever had in my recent life. For the past couple of months - only PMO on weekends. But still looking at P. My last was Friday the 26th. Before that it was the 20th. I have met someone new and quite exciting, but can't keep an erection! She was very understanding and we both realized it was probably for the best at this point (no protection). I MO'd on Dec 29th with her 'support' but wasn't even fully erect at O. Since the 26th I have had only slight response. But limp and shriveled. Only morning wood as of the last few days. I do notice that the shrivel is kinda going away. I am getting some feeling back in this thing and feel like it will work as designed but am NOT gonna test it. Hot shower water feels nice again (it had been years), and I get a small tingle and reaction at certain sights, sounds, smells during the day.
But my libido is and has been low for a while now. Maybe 2 months or so? Last PMO (26th) was horrible and forced and the O was nowhere near as strong as on the 29th (MO). I feel like I am resetting, but slowly. Am I in the middle of a reset? I try not to focus on my last PMO, but more the fact that I've been avoiding it. I was still looking at P, just no MO. That all stopped on the 29th.
I'm fighting cravings to look at P and actually want only to have a real life partner. I'm feeling actual emotions (it had been years) and have though so clearly for the past few months. My ADHD is under control, I have emotions, I want to love, I actually want to do things. I've bee more social than I have in years. I'm hoping I was slowly disassociating P with O over the past few months. And now that Ive stopped completely that things will accelerate.
I have NO desire to look at P. I don't want anything to do with it.
Support please? Anyone with a similar situation? Experience? I'm scared. I want to work and feel like a whole human being again.