pavlovsdog11
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Hello. I'm 26 and have had issues with getting an erection with real partners. I have watched porn since I was in middle school (somewhere between age 12 and 14). I started with watching my dad's porn. I remember sneaking into his room at night (my parents are divorced) while he was snoring and grabbing a vhs or two. Then when I learned how to use kazaa and lime wire I started downloading all kinds of different genres of porn. As I got older I was eventually turned on to the Tube sites. In college I continued to watch porn regularly, even more so then because I was no longer living at home using the family computer. And the genres increasingly became more strange, even to the point of watching clips that fell outside of my sexual orientation. This continued until I saw a TedTalk aout porn addiction in September 2014. I stopped using porn for about 2 months then I fell off the wagon for a couple of weeks. Now as of today I have been porn free for a little more than 8 weeks but not masturbation free. Although I've never felt I was/am fully addicted, I believe it has affected my ability to get an erection with real partners. But I'm still not totally sure what my problem is.
My real sex experice.
In 9th grade I lost my virginity. Had no problems with erections. Had sex with 2 different girls in 10th grade. Again, no problem getting hard. Didn't have sex again until my Sophomore year of college, but then I DID have trouble getting hard. I hooked up with this girl multiple times but could never get hard. Finally one night I got hard enough to penetrate but it didn't last long and I began wondering what was wrong. The next year I started dating a different girl. And had the same issues initially. But, after a couple of weeks it finally happened and we had sex and it was never a problem again. Except for me being uniterested sometimes later on and our sexlife trailing off towards the end of our 4 year relationship.
Since then I have been with 5 women (all short term, less than a month) and I have not once been able to get hard. I don't really even feel so much as a tingle in my dingle when we're kissing or whatever. And I am absolutely, physically attracted to these women. I even tried viagra once, but it didn't work. But one interesting thing happened back in the summer. My ex and I hooked back up for a couple of months and I had absolutely no problem getting hard with her. Maybe because I'm just really comfortable with her?? Anyway, it assured me I didn't have a physical problem but it raised even more questions.
As far as socially anxiety goes... I'm not the most confident person. I went in to college with braces and that certainly didn't help my confidence. I definitely have a hard time opening up to people I don't know that well, or at least being anything but superficial with them. I guess you could call it shyness. But I am very nice and easy to get along with. Makes me wonder if porn has affected how I socialize with my peers.
Thanks for reading. A diagnosis or any feedback at all would be greatly appreciated!
My real sex experice.
In 9th grade I lost my virginity. Had no problems with erections. Had sex with 2 different girls in 10th grade. Again, no problem getting hard. Didn't have sex again until my Sophomore year of college, but then I DID have trouble getting hard. I hooked up with this girl multiple times but could never get hard. Finally one night I got hard enough to penetrate but it didn't last long and I began wondering what was wrong. The next year I started dating a different girl. And had the same issues initially. But, after a couple of weeks it finally happened and we had sex and it was never a problem again. Except for me being uniterested sometimes later on and our sexlife trailing off towards the end of our 4 year relationship.
Since then I have been with 5 women (all short term, less than a month) and I have not once been able to get hard. I don't really even feel so much as a tingle in my dingle when we're kissing or whatever. And I am absolutely, physically attracted to these women. I even tried viagra once, but it didn't work. But one interesting thing happened back in the summer. My ex and I hooked back up for a couple of months and I had absolutely no problem getting hard with her. Maybe because I'm just really comfortable with her?? Anyway, it assured me I didn't have a physical problem but it raised even more questions.
As far as socially anxiety goes... I'm not the most confident person. I went in to college with braces and that certainly didn't help my confidence. I definitely have a hard time opening up to people I don't know that well, or at least being anything but superficial with them. I guess you could call it shyness. But I am very nice and easy to get along with. Makes me wonder if porn has affected how I socialize with my peers.
Thanks for reading. A diagnosis or any feedback at all would be greatly appreciated!
