struggling to move forward

[adamantius]

I began using print porn regularly 20 years ago and high speed internet porn 10 years ago.
I tried to give it up without lasting success, which contributed to my divorce.

Recently discovered the reboot method, which seems promising, but I keep relapsing.

I'm also trying to start a new relationship at the same time, which may not be a good idea.

Frustrated, but not totally discouraged.

 

[Bagpuss]

Hey dude, that sucks. This is a big problem for who knows how many guys. Sad to think it may have contributed to your divorce. I have never told nor intend to tell my wife about the issue. She's a good woman but not what I would always consider to be understanding/supportive with certain issues.

Relapsing is part of the process as far as I understand it. 90 days is not a particularly long period of time when we think about it. You relapsed, it happens, just learn from it and move on.

Just my personal opinion but if you don't have serious PIED then the relationship shouldn't be such a big issue. Orgasming with a real person without porn of porn fantasy seems to be compatible with the reboot process.

Good luck man 

 

[CrateDane]

Im rebooting while building a new relationship as well and for me it makes it much, much easier because I know I am working towards something very specific, namely wonderful sex with her. I told her about the problems and the rebooting within a week of us starting the relationship and she is very supportive, I definately suggest telling your girlfriend about it.
It makes it much easier to deal with the frustration that PIED brings.