How to know if you can have sex...

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Stevew

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Ok so i went 60 days pmo free but then kind of masturbated with thought etc a few times a few times with porn. Anyways the test is if you can masturbate without porn then you likely are ok (i don't think i am my erections go away quite fast). But aren't you likely to be alot more horny and hard if you are touching a naked girl in comparison to using your mind?
I mean i am a virgin haven't even see any woman naked or touched any female body part. How do i know i couldn't get a full erection? I mean i'm guessing i could but it may die away and due to once and probable still having death grip.
One thing i want to add is i am now circumcised so masturbation is not very enjoyable. I kind of just shake my penis from the bottom...
A surgeon who does alot of penis surgerys told me that porn induced ED only effects those who have had sex... but then their are alot of virgins on here including myself obviously.
 
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Fappy

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Hi steve!
Brains are certainly wired to become more excited and erect at the mere touch of a woman, how much the more so if our brain knows it will lead to sex!
This is the evolutionary explanation. Unfortunately porn does not fit in to evolution. Humans werent built to get off over pixelated images of dutch girls being punished for having large breasts.
Those of us who have fallen to an addiction to these images have basically given our evolutionary brains and sexuality a kick in the balls. Our brains become wired to these visual stimuli and after a while it thinks its the only way to get sexually excited. Porn fucks our brains six ways from sunday!
This vicious de-evolution (a word i just made up), can be reversed! It takes a rewiring of the circuits through not watching porn or exposing oneself to sexy visual stimuli. Everyone has different recovery times so dont worry. It will heal itself and then you can get hard when you even THINK of a tit or an arse, etc etc, vagina.
And dont think too much about not getting it up during sex! If you are thinking about that then you are not thinking about your partner. 
 
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CrateDane

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Stevew said:
Ok so i went 60 days pmo free but then kind of masturbated with thought etc a few times a few times with porn. Anyways the test is if you can masturbate without porn then you likely are ok (i don't think i am my erections go away quite fast). But aren't you likely to be alot more horny and hard if you are touching a naked girl in comparison to using your mind?
I mean i am a virgin haven't even see any woman naked or touched any female body part. How do i know i couldn't get a full erection? I mean i'm guessing i could but it may die away and due to once and probable still having death grip.
One thing i want to add is i am now circumcised so masturbation is not very enjoyable. I kind of just shake my penis from the bottom...
A surgeon who does alot of penis surgerys told me that porn induced ED only effects those who have had sex... but then their are alot of virgins on here including myself obviously.
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Why is it important to know whether you can get an erection right now ?
Is it because you are afraid to go looking for a girlfriend in case it "fails" ? Is it because you want to know if you are cured and can go back to watching porn (not a good idea) ?
IMO you should definately try to have sex. If the erection fails, be prepared to work with other body parts (luckily we are not just a penis on feet) and focus on cuddling, kissing, making out and making her happy. If it is someone you would like to have a long lasting relationship with, be prepared to tell her the truth.
 
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Stevew

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Basically. There are these really attractive girls that seem to like me and i would like a girlfriend. I've been dealing with a very curved downwards penis for over a year of which was recently corrected from getting surgery from one of the best surgeons around. This was a very stressful time where i was dealing with i'm going to have a penis that won't work with sex and will lead to injury or i have the regular surgery for penis curves which can lead to ED, loss alot of size, sensitivity basically that surgery messes up your penis... i was using porn to cope with the whole thing... so penis problems + pied depression really messed me up and all during that there was also some girls that kept smiling at me then started giving me annoyed looks that i wasn't going up to them... it was really frustrating...

Now that my penis is good i still have a bit of healing from the surgery to be finished off but PIED is really stopping me from going for a girl. I mean if this thing could take 3 months... if your 1 month into a relationship women are going to be wondering why you are not wanting to have sex etc. I'm still in school (i'm 17) of which makes it more hard as she may tell her friends etc about me not wanting it... stuff spreads etc.

I know i should just go speak to them etc but it's just the what if it goes really well... few weeks later she's wanting to do oral/sex or something and then i tell her about PIED or something and she goes and tells her friend he can't get it up... blah blah... like i just can't deal with that.

Sorry for the life story probable wasn't necessary.
 
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CrateDane

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Ahh I didnt know your age, some things get easier to deal with / ignore as you get older :)
I can definately see your predicament here.  So basically you have to make a choice, dont get a girlfriend and dont risk suffering defeat BUT you also dont get the benefits of rewiring with a real life person which can help recovery not to mention the greatness that having a girlfriend is.
IMO, go for it but be prepared to tell her about the PIED early on. If she abandons you over it and tells her friends, she was never girlfriend material to begin with.
Good luck!
 
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Stevew

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Thing is most girls are going off to uni soon anyways like 3+ months... so even if i got close within 3 months having sex.. there would be like 2 or so months until summer is over and off they go to some place that could be from 1 to 10 hours drive and that would not work. Plus i think girls like to meet men in uni as do guys don't think they would want to keep a long distance relationship.
...after the 3 months of being at school i will hopefully be almost over PIED... not exactly the best timing haha. Although my penis still is recovering from the surgery of which should take another 3 months. I'm taking a year off to get work etc but there are not going to be nearly as many girls in a work place... school is kind of a perfect opportunity. Then again if i do go uni the year after there will be plenty to go for etc.
School is a great place to chat to girls as alot of the time you may be put in groups etc... i can't just go around the street trying to pick up girls... god knows what kind of girl you may pick up... just got to hope where i get some part time work there will be good girls available.
 
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Stevew

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''IMO you should definately try to have sex. If the erection fails, be prepared to work with other body parts (luckily we are not just a penis on feet) and focus on cuddling, kissing, making out and making her happy. If it is someone you would like to have a long lasting relationship with, be prepared to tell her the truth.''
I really doubt i will be able to have sex... i have had a pretty big relapse since by 60 days no pmo... although i haveb't gone back to my usualy twice a day extreme porn... i mean maybe those 60 days counted for something and i could be ok in a month... i had a random erection aswell... i mean i'm kind of hoping i'm not back to square one. Testing though will be hard because now i'm circumcised masturbating is not fun at all... so i could actually be ok in a few months but not be able to get the best erection due to lack of foreskin.
Also i'd rather not leave school being known for not being able to get my penis up haha. I should probable just chat to girls and not try and start anything.
 
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CrateDane

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Didnt consider the Uni thing. Long distance relationships are notoriously hard to keep alive so yeah I do agree, put it on hold for now.
 
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