HELP! I found a girl!

[George Oh Well]

Last night I went home with a girl I seriously like. Of course I could not get an erection as we began to have sex. I told her I was a drug addict and to be patient with me and she responded positively. The next morning I penetrated her and O'd with what little morning wood I could muster. I have feelings for this woman and I see her as a potential romantic partner. She seems to have feelings for me as well, but I don't think she realizes what she is in store for. How can I tell her that I have an addiction that has given me ED? Could I even make it work with her?

 

[Innocence]

If she responds positively about being a drug addict she surely can take a porn addict.
I think she'll take it the right way or try reading into this: http://yourbrainonporn.com/rebooting-with-a-partner
More guys have told others and shared their story there too.

 

[Numez]

No need to lie, if you lose her because you are a porn addict, she is not the one. its just the matter of getting over it.

I believe its worse to be drug addict, so you really didn't had to lie!

 

[Steam rolled]

As a female who unknowingly fell in love with a drug addict years ago for 5 years and loved him dearly stood by him 100% BUT on his 3rd strike he got the boot !!!!
It hurt very bad to lose a good man to drugs but not even close to what being traded in for Porn feels like !!!!

Now in a 14 year marriage with a PA the PAIN is by far worse.

So what i am getting at is come prepared with the information about this addition, The other drug!!!!

GOOD LUCK!!

 

[PresidentCoolidge]

I would just take it slow. Women are attracted to men who don't feel the need to rush into a commitment. Use the time of your reboot to give her space to allow her feelings to develop over time.

It's up to you whether or not you want to tell her about your problem, but it might be helpful as you can use the opportunity to rewire. You don't have to have sex. You can kiss, cuddle, fondle, all that shit. Also, if you can get hard you can try something called kareeza, where you have slow gentle intercourse without orgasm. This is one of the most effective ways to rewire.

 

[George Oh Well]

I was too embarrassed to tell her about porn. In my mind drug addiction sounded less embarrassing at the time. But I want to make it work with her and in order to do that I'm going to tell her the truth. Wish me luck!

 

[Innocence]

Good luck mate!

If it makes you feel any more secure, last time I admitted this to my therapist she didn't react surprised.
She told me she had heard this a lot from other teenagers that porn was an easy addiction to become addicted to.

When I found the courage to tell a female friend because we started the same time, me I beating PMO and she beating self harm.
She was also very supportive and didn't give me a single strange face.

I know also from myself, it's an embarrassing thing to admit but you will feel relieved as soon as you tell her.

Good luck!

 

[Viper]

In a weird way, I think telling her you were a drug addict probably helped you get laid.  8)
You should've told her you rode a motorcycle and have a tattoo appointment.
But seriously, not everyone knows about PIED since the awareness is slowly seeping
into the public at large. You'll have to find a way to convey what you're going
through. My thing is if you just met her, make sure you have a certain comfort level.
She can react either way.

 

[George Oh Well]

I told her and she was more than supportive. She completely understands what I'm going through. What a relief! Seriously, I can't thank all of you enough for the support I've received on this forum. Ever since I realized I had a problem and faced it head on, things have been going much easier and I feel strong enough to conquer any challenges in my path. There has been a positive change in my life and it will only get better from here. Thanks everyone!

 

[Poker]

Life is a risk.... 

Have her watch this.  Sometimes somebody else telling the story helps.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GXtEcQGLWW8