Anxiety Through The Roof

[supertej10]

Hey all,

So I've been dealing with anxiety recently from quitting my porn addiction and it has been getting worse and worse for me. My problem is that when I'm around other people, including friends and family, I keep doing this wierd look out of the corner of my eyes. People give me a look of almost paralyzing fear even though I try not to do this. I can't help it at all. Every time I'm around other people, I get so anxious and need help to stop it. Also, as of quitting PMO, my back has been killing me for some reason. I was wondering if anyone else has experienced these problems and if there is a way to make it stop. I would be deeply grateful to anyone who could offer me some advice in this area.

 

[indiana]

Hey Super. The anxiety will ease itself out over time, check out yourbrainonporn, it will give you an idea of how the disregualtion caused by excessive PMO can cause anxiety, depression, and numerous other things. Keep moving forward with your reboot and hang in there. As far as your back, I didn't specifically go through that but I had withdrawls once that fely like I as dying, I couldn't get warm no matter what I did, even if sitting under a full hot shower, everything hurt, I could hardly move. You body is working through legitimate withdrawals and that can take many forms.


All the best man,
Indiana.

 

[Attos]

So it's just the look you're doing that bothers you ? Or is there something else about the people and maybe your thoughts in that situation ?

I try not to do this.

You might find yourself feeling better if you stop trying. Instead, learn to breathe and relax, there's a lot of advice out there.

This is like trying really really hard, NOT to scratch an itch or NOT to think of a pink elephant. That can drive one crazy.

People give me a look of almost paralyzing fear even though I try not to do this.

You mean people around you are paralyzed with fear ?

For your back, try some light exercise, like walking half hour every day, it may ease up the tension in your body. A therapist would be able to teach you more targeted exercises which will be good for your back.

 

[Fappy]

I had anxiety problems up the arse when i was in withdrawals, still sometimes now too.
I had this wierd tick where i would scratch the back of my head. Or excessive sniffing. My left hand was also twisted into a claw from too much wanking. So if you imagine using that fap-claw to scratch the back of my head while sniffing uncontrollably . I looked like a crack head. I could tell people thought i was insane or perhaps a junkie. Well, i was a junkie in a sense...
Itll pass mate. Just gotta ride it out a little longer.

 

[Jimmy James]

I can't help with the anxiety, but I too have had a lot of back pain lately.  I have attributed it to other issues such as poor core strength, a bad mattress, or the fact that I have had back surgery on the past.  But maybe it is a withdrawal symptom. I do find that my back feels better since I started exercising, particularly core exercises such as crunches and planks.

 

[William]

You are having withdrawals.  You won't believe me, but that is a good thing.  Why?  It means you are forcing your dopamine levels down by avoiding giving  yourself a high through artificial sexual stimulation.  It is a place everyone getting clean has to walk through.  I don't know if you are doing the hard 90, but if you are not, you should start to consciously do so.  On the other side of 90 days things usually get considerably easier. 

For a look at what withdrawals look like, click this YBOP link.

http://yourbrainonporn.com/what-does-withdrawal-from-porn-look-like

I am quoted about 2/3 down.  My quote starts with "Withdrawals suck," which they do, but if you understand the process of quitting, and there is a process, you will understand you need to embrace the withdrawal phase.  You took years fucking up your brain's sexual reward system, sensitizing it to artificial sexual stimulation, you will need at least 3 months to desensitize it to that, and get it back to factory settings.  Don't freak out (I know, you are freaking out), but don't freak out about freaking out, just understand it, and understand it is part of the healing process, and it does have an end.  I know at the time it was happening to me I distinctly had the thought that "if this is what the rest of my life will feel like without porn, I don't want to live, or at least I don't want to live without porn."  But I, and many others here, are here to tell you, this is short, hellish, time in you life you have to endure to get clean.  There is no medicine for it; it is the medicine. 

Good luck on your journey. 

Will I AM.

 

[supertej10]

Thanks for all the advice everyone. I'm going to try to just relax and strive for 90 days of no PMO. As far as the anxiety goes, to be more specific, I've noticed that when I'm around other people or walking down the street, I seem to give off this look to people out of the corner of my eyes where they give me a weird look. It's really hard to describe. I would keep trying to look away from people or at the ground but still couldn't help my eyes glancing at them in my periphery. It's almost like they had a mind of their own and people look at me then with a creepy kind of expression. I don't know what is at the root of this or if it's just part of all the anxiety that goes with no PMO but it has really prevented me from doing the things I want to do in life. Even walking down my street and seeing a stranger just causes me so much anxiety because of this.

 

[Attos]

So ... you are exchanging weird glances with the people around you ...

Question is: for what reason does this bother you ?

still couldn't help my eyes glancing at them in my periphery. It's almost like they had a mind of their own

Well, if I'm going to yell: "HEY, there's a huge elephant behind you ! ",
you can't help but look, can you ?

I think this is what you're yelling to your own brain. Now you just need to find the elephant