Hi. Been six months since i looked at porn. today for some fkin stupid damn reason i slipped up. i was home, tired watching tv and a soft core movie came on. started to watch it knowing that that was stupid...but i did then ended up going to an old porn site i used to visit and MO.......i feel like shit.................i fkin knew it was wrong but did it.........i am determined to pick myself up and go again........small battle lost, war still raging but i have been victorious thus far and will continue........just disappointed in myself and would appreciate any motivational words from you all friends :'(
Six months and one slip up today....why
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challenged
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Don't berate yourself. Six months is an awesome stretch. Look at this way. Have you ever gone six months without telling a lie, without thinking something terrible about your fellow man, without being selfish or inconsiderate, without doing something you know you ought to do?
We are faced with temptations every day, and we all fail to live 100% of the time like we should live. That is what it means to be human.
Kudos on doing six months and on your realization that you did something you should not do. Not consider it water under the bridge, and pout aside any guilt or shame, and just move on.
We are faced with temptations every day, and we all fail to live 100% of the time like we should live. That is what it means to be human.
Kudos on doing six months and on your realization that you did something you should not do. Not consider it water under the bridge, and pout aside any guilt or shame, and just move on.
Don't beat yourself up. We all did that enough when we were under the throes of our addiction. It didn't help then. It won't help now.
Six months is amazing. Kudos to you. Not only that but feel good that it was only one slip up and you were able to get back on track. And use this as a lesson. Next time you feel the urge, think about when you gave in this time and how unsatisfying it was and use that to stay on track.
I haven't made it six months yet. I made it a month, twice and then slipped up. But now, every time I get the urge to give in to the urge, I remind myself how unsatisfying it was when I did, and let the urge pass.
Kudos to six months really. Very very impressive.
Six months is amazing. Kudos to you. Not only that but feel good that it was only one slip up and you were able to get back on track. And use this as a lesson. Next time you feel the urge, think about when you gave in this time and how unsatisfying it was and use that to stay on track.
I haven't made it six months yet. I made it a month, twice and then slipped up. But now, every time I get the urge to give in to the urge, I remind myself how unsatisfying it was when I did, and let the urge pass.
Kudos to six months really. Very very impressive.
Dharmabum
Active Member
One slip doesn't erase six months of sobriety, my friend. One slip per six months? Most of us would beg, borrow, or steal for that kind of track record.
If you told me I could live the rest of my life, PMO free, save one slip each six months, I'd take it.
We're on a lifetime journey here, and a slip-up doesn't put us all the way back at the starting line. You've enriched the last six months of your life and now have the next six in front of you to life porn free again. And once you hit six, go for seven?and so on.
Really. The worst thing we can do is be hard on ourselves. The insidious thing is, we think we always have this beat: at one month, six months, a year, five years. But the chemistry is there, urging us to just test the waters. We're working to create the discipline to say "No thanks" to the temptation. At first, we just try to say it as often as we can. Eventually, we hope it becomes our pat answer and we never give in. But we all feel that tug from time to time.
If you've said "No" to temptation each day for six months, and then had one slip up, your batting average is pretty high. Forgive yourself, dust off, and just keep going. You've made remarkable progress. Would you rather be where you are today or where you were six and a half months ago? Today is where you belong, and it offers you a lot of promise for the future.
Onward. Stay vigilant. you CAN beat this.
If you told me I could live the rest of my life, PMO free, save one slip each six months, I'd take it.
We're on a lifetime journey here, and a slip-up doesn't put us all the way back at the starting line. You've enriched the last six months of your life and now have the next six in front of you to life porn free again. And once you hit six, go for seven?and so on.
Really. The worst thing we can do is be hard on ourselves. The insidious thing is, we think we always have this beat: at one month, six months, a year, five years. But the chemistry is there, urging us to just test the waters. We're working to create the discipline to say "No thanks" to the temptation. At first, we just try to say it as often as we can. Eventually, we hope it becomes our pat answer and we never give in. But we all feel that tug from time to time.
If you've said "No" to temptation each day for six months, and then had one slip up, your batting average is pretty high. Forgive yourself, dust off, and just keep going. You've made remarkable progress. Would you rather be where you are today or where you were six and a half months ago? Today is where you belong, and it offers you a lot of promise for the future.
Onward. Stay vigilant. you CAN beat this.
Congrats, icanbeatthis. Six months is awesome.
Be thankful for the fact that you feel bad. That is a gift. The bad feeling will pass in a few days, so make sure you remember this feeling so you are galvanized in your decision to simply change the channel next time.
Again, this feeling is a real gift. If you didn't feel the way you do now, then you would not be on this journey to wholeness.
You are beating this!
Be thankful for the fact that you feel bad. That is a gift. The bad feeling will pass in a few days, so make sure you remember this feeling so you are galvanized in your decision to simply change the channel next time.
Again, this feeling is a real gift. If you didn't feel the way you do now, then you would not be on this journey to wholeness.
You are beating this!
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ChangeNow
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Keep up the fight brother. Just don't let this take you down that path. You can do it!
Newbie here - just found this site today, and I am so glad I did!
Just read your post - WOW, 6 months is spectacular!!! One slip up is very impressive, and you've acknowledged it, recognized the trigger and are now better prepared to deal with it the next time.
I am 55 and have used some sort of porn for about 42 years now. I will be SO grateful to have your strength to hit a milestone like 6 months. Know that you are an inspiration to those of us who read these posts!
Just read your post - WOW, 6 months is spectacular!!! One slip up is very impressive, and you've acknowledged it, recognized the trigger and are now better prepared to deal with it the next time.
I am 55 and have used some sort of porn for about 42 years now. I will be SO grateful to have your strength to hit a milestone like 6 months. Know that you are an inspiration to those of us who read these posts!
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Feetfirst
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Well done on your 6 months that is a great achievement in itself and it proves you are more than capable. I am also grateful to you for sharing this slip up as it helps as a reminder to me that this is a lifetime of vigilance. There is no cure as such, and there is no defeat so long as we keep on the path. Here's to your next 6 months, rebuild your defences and continue with joy.
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Chile
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I've never been free for more than a few months. I still fall every few days (don't know how to re-set my counter) and when I fall I binge. I admire you for what you've been able to do and for being quick to reach out for help when you fell. Plus, the crappy feelings you talked about help me greatly because it helps break the deception that I still fall for constantly. The way you've handled everything has been a great help to me. Remember that you are a success story and there is a silver lining in this.
Brooklyn Jerry
Active Member
I went from August 1 until Jan 25 without PMO or MO. I did watch some porn and edge a few times,which was a big mistake as when I broke down last week I was edging again. I have been having sex with my lady during my reboot and things were working fine. I find since screwing up we attempted to have intercoure twice, the first time during the week,although I got hard I couldnt penetrate her,and last nite although I did for a short time had to have her finish me with her hand. I really need to keep my hands out of my pants and beat this demon .
ready2go
Active Member
Six months! Right on man. You're doing great. I agree with everyone's sentiment here. Your progress is awesome and to be admired. A slip? Remember it for what it was, a momentary lapse, and keep on going! Just amazing dude. You are an inspiration! I'm only 17 days out and though I don't want to speed through time, can't wait for the 6 month mark. Congratulations on getting back on the path and continuing to help and support the rest of us with your story.