Dear rebooters,
it's been now a little bit more than a year that I discovered YBOP and rebooting, yet, I did relapse several times. I will tell you my story and thoughts, and I think it will help.
My first post in this forum is the following: http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=2977.0
I was slightly disappointed that most of people passed without taking the time to read or answer. But what disappointed me really, is to see how people think about the process. Like ones who are too hurried to reboot, in order to "have sex". Some are looking for the magic pills. Others are waiting until they "reboot" and bang 100 females daily and they get energy, others are counting their "clean" days, others are talking how they get turned on by asses or memories or whatever. That's not how things work.
Where am I now? It's been long time I didn't watch porn or MB, nor I will. Porn is for children. Porn makes less a man out of you. It distorted the way I see women. I felt many times that I became a "pervert". It drained all my energy. It was also with MB a the reason of my previous low testosterone symptoms. Before, I was like a zombie, severed ED, no drive for life, no social life, etc...
Now? I work out regularly, I'm for the first time in my life succeeding, I acquired the virtue of persistence, I have a deeper voice, a deep manly voice, self-control and willpower, ability to focus for hours, more mindful, more muscular, more relaxed, more in peace and satisfied with myself etc.......... And guess what? For the first time of my life, I felt I have a penis. My traumatic and excessive masturbation really mutilated my penis. Now, It's bigger, and, alive. I still have some way, but the actual gains are the foundation of the coming progress. That's why I don't consider watching porn, no longer.
How to progress? Simple. Just accept that you need some time, and a lot of efforts. Your goal is not to "fix" yourself and "have plenty of sex", or, "have a boner when seeing a female". Excuse me, but, I'm going to use a hard language: Grow the f**k-up !
The key is to focus on your life, and try to get better everyday. If you wait to feel like it, it's not gonna come.
Since the problem is in the brain, I cannot recommend enough Intermittent Fasting, HIIT, weight training, meditation, and avoiding super stimuli. Super stimuli is not just porn: anything that mimics your porn habits. It may be even peeking like herbert the pervert. Also, avoid too much wandering, video games, watching and/or listening too much videos or music. The key is to give your reward system some rest. But, it doesn't mean to torture oneself. Just socialise, read, do something good.
And, I stopped flirting with women. I need to take a rest. When you have a brain corrupted by porn, you just need to back-off. First of all, your brain tricks you, and make you use people just as a source of pleasure, whether you realise it or not. It tries just to mimic your porn imagery. It's pretty dishonest. On the other side, with your brain in that state, I guess you'll be with the wrong person...
Anyway. Just take a break, and don"t force yourself. When your equipment is fixed, it will give you genuine signs. Just work on improving yourself, and, You'll find the perfect match, and, have an amazing love-making.
To close this message, I'd recommend reading this post. It really inspired me a lot, and, I think no one can really recover if he don"t adopt the mindset described in: http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=15558.0My Thoughts On Rebooting [EXTREMELY LONG POST]
And to download the "Craving Crusher" MP3. When you feel weak, all you have is to listen to this mp3 from your device, and, You'll have less chances to relapse, and lose all the benefits i mentioned above.
https://my.leadpages.net/leadbox/14401a273f72a2%3A16bb3e17eb46dc/5727902603673600/
N.B You'll have to enter your E-mail to egt the file: That's how the owner tranfers the file, and I had to respect that.
it's been now a little bit more than a year that I discovered YBOP and rebooting, yet, I did relapse several times. I will tell you my story and thoughts, and I think it will help.
My first post in this forum is the following: http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=2977.0
I was slightly disappointed that most of people passed without taking the time to read or answer. But what disappointed me really, is to see how people think about the process. Like ones who are too hurried to reboot, in order to "have sex". Some are looking for the magic pills. Others are waiting until they "reboot" and bang 100 females daily and they get energy, others are counting their "clean" days, others are talking how they get turned on by asses or memories or whatever. That's not how things work.
Where am I now? It's been long time I didn't watch porn or MB, nor I will. Porn is for children. Porn makes less a man out of you. It distorted the way I see women. I felt many times that I became a "pervert". It drained all my energy. It was also with MB a the reason of my previous low testosterone symptoms. Before, I was like a zombie, severed ED, no drive for life, no social life, etc...
Now? I work out regularly, I'm for the first time in my life succeeding, I acquired the virtue of persistence, I have a deeper voice, a deep manly voice, self-control and willpower, ability to focus for hours, more mindful, more muscular, more relaxed, more in peace and satisfied with myself etc.......... And guess what? For the first time of my life, I felt I have a penis. My traumatic and excessive masturbation really mutilated my penis. Now, It's bigger, and, alive. I still have some way, but the actual gains are the foundation of the coming progress. That's why I don't consider watching porn, no longer.
How to progress? Simple. Just accept that you need some time, and a lot of efforts. Your goal is not to "fix" yourself and "have plenty of sex", or, "have a boner when seeing a female". Excuse me, but, I'm going to use a hard language: Grow the f**k-up !
The key is to focus on your life, and try to get better everyday. If you wait to feel like it, it's not gonna come.
Since the problem is in the brain, I cannot recommend enough Intermittent Fasting, HIIT, weight training, meditation, and avoiding super stimuli. Super stimuli is not just porn: anything that mimics your porn habits. It may be even peeking like herbert the pervert. Also, avoid too much wandering, video games, watching and/or listening too much videos or music. The key is to give your reward system some rest. But, it doesn't mean to torture oneself. Just socialise, read, do something good.
And, I stopped flirting with women. I need to take a rest. When you have a brain corrupted by porn, you just need to back-off. First of all, your brain tricks you, and make you use people just as a source of pleasure, whether you realise it or not. It tries just to mimic your porn imagery. It's pretty dishonest. On the other side, with your brain in that state, I guess you'll be with the wrong person...
Anyway. Just take a break, and don"t force yourself. When your equipment is fixed, it will give you genuine signs. Just work on improving yourself, and, You'll find the perfect match, and, have an amazing love-making.
To close this message, I'd recommend reading this post. It really inspired me a lot, and, I think no one can really recover if he don"t adopt the mindset described in: http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=15558.0My Thoughts On Rebooting [EXTREMELY LONG POST]
And to download the "Craving Crusher" MP3. When you feel weak, all you have is to listen to this mp3 from your device, and, You'll have less chances to relapse, and lose all the benefits i mentioned above.
https://my.leadpages.net/leadbox/14401a273f72a2%3A16bb3e17eb46dc/5727902603673600/
N.B You'll have to enter your E-mail to egt the file: That's how the owner tranfers the file, and I had to respect that.
