Dating Sites
- Thread starter matchello
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Cheers man. I seem to spend more time looking at the girls on dating sites, but that seems to be the way of dating sites as more often my communications don't get started. I was worried that I was spending more time looking. I don't really fantasise though.
Saying that are we trying to avoid fantasies on reboot coz sometimes at night I do get fantasies :/
Saying that are we trying to avoid fantasies on reboot coz sometimes at night I do get fantasies :/
Phase2
Well-Known Member
See #4. You should read this entire page to get up to speed: http://yourbrainonporn.com/node/79 Good luck, buddy.
A short list of what it helps to avoid includes: (Also see this FAQ - What stimuli must I avoid during my reboot - Did I relapse?)
Porn: all types. If you need to ask, then the answer is, 'bad move.' If it's not an in-person connection with a real person, don't use it (and that includes cam contacts).
Avoid behaviors that mimic YOUR porn addiction. Which usually means behaviors that substitute the synthetic and the two-dimensional for the real deal.
Eliminating artificial or synthetic means don't engage in "cam to cam" or chat rooms.
Surfing Facebook, YouTube, Craig'sList or dating sites for pictures and sexual stimuli is like an alcoholic switching to lite beer.
Fantasizing about porn is nearly the same as watching it, as you are activating your brain's addiction-related pathways.
"What about fantasizing about real women?" See this FAQ for a full discussion: What about fantasizing during a reboot?
Reading "erotic" stories counts as porn fantasy.
A short list of what it helps to avoid includes: (Also see this FAQ - What stimuli must I avoid during my reboot - Did I relapse?)
Porn: all types. If you need to ask, then the answer is, 'bad move.' If it's not an in-person connection with a real person, don't use it (and that includes cam contacts).
Avoid behaviors that mimic YOUR porn addiction. Which usually means behaviors that substitute the synthetic and the two-dimensional for the real deal.
Eliminating artificial or synthetic means don't engage in "cam to cam" or chat rooms.
Surfing Facebook, YouTube, Craig'sList or dating sites for pictures and sexual stimuli is like an alcoholic switching to lite beer.
Fantasizing about porn is nearly the same as watching it, as you are activating your brain's addiction-related pathways.
"What about fantasizing about real women?" See this FAQ for a full discussion: What about fantasizing during a reboot?
Reading "erotic" stories counts as porn fantasy.
Well said Phase 2.
I was chatting out of boredom, then, getting creepier and creepier. And after some minutes I found my self in front of my screen with my hands in my pants, asking what the hell was I doing. Brain plays a lot of tricks. And, sometimes we give in because we are addicted to the buzz.
I was chatting out of boredom, then, getting creepier and creepier. And after some minutes I found my self in front of my screen with my hands in my pants, asking what the hell was I doing. Brain plays a lot of tricks. And, sometimes we give in because we are addicted to the buzz.
Brooklyn Jerry
Active Member
I agree,while not looking at porn I found myself going back to a dating site to look at profiles and photos . I for sure was not going to make any contact since I am in a relationship with a sexually compatable lady. I guess I just wanted to fantasize about meeting new partners. I also went on Craigslist and contacted some peolpe into swapping,even though my lady wouldn't be into that. Just my brains way of trying to find a way around the no challenge.
Fappy
Respected Member
Good for connecting in a personal way with real people, but youre playing with fire. A few erotic lines typed on the screen could lead to a screen splattered with jizz.
I dappled in that a few times myself. I went from asking normal things like age, location, hobbies etc etc, real get to know you stuff.
About an hour later i was naked in front of the laptop in my kitchen asking her to stick her finger in her arse and describe the smell.
Can get real creepy real fast. Use at your own risk!
Fazee
I dappled in that a few times myself. I went from asking normal things like age, location, hobbies etc etc, real get to know you stuff.
About an hour later i was naked in front of the laptop in my kitchen asking her to stick her finger in her arse and describe the smell.
Can get real creepy real fast. Use at your own risk!
Fazee