New to PIED, advise?

[Mike4567]

Im on my phone at work so I apologize for any grammatical errors. But I'm a 23 year old male, physically active and now have an amazing girlfriend who is honestly out of my league and most beautiful girl I've been with. My number is 11 if that matters but this is the first on that's more consistent with hooking up. (Almost every other day of something. Not always sex). One thing that's been frustrating her and now me is my inability to cum during sex and I've even had a couple times where I've gone soft during penetration. The sensation isn't as good as me doing it and now I've noticed my death drip. There's been quite a few times where she's gotten me off with HJ's but the BJs and intercourse can't get me to cum. When we fool around, I get hard and I feel like I'm ready to please her, but the sensation isn't there and I can't come, leaving her self esteem in question. I've reassured that it's not her and I'm extremely attracted to her but now I'm questioning my man hood. Reading forums like this makes me feel better but I don't know how sunk in I am. I've been masterbatingg of recent just to make sure I can still cum because it's freaking me out. An example is on Saturday sexy time started up with my girl. Foreplay happened which lead to penetration. I was lasting for a long time and never really felt "there". I got her to orgasm and I pulled out to have her finish me (she is aware of my struggles to finish during sex) anyways she was giving me a HJ but then I started almost forcing my O. Like "dude, just cum so she doesn't get mad". I never ended up cumming and while she didn't get mad, she was very bummed because it was the hottest sex we've had as a couple. I can tell I have some performance anxiety but is this also connected with PIED where I can't get close during sex and have even lost my erection at times? I have gotten off during sex before but I can't remember my MB patterns at those times and it was rare.

TL;DR Gf has gotten me off with HJs, can't get off to BJs or penetration . I have death grip when fapping. My porn of choice is vanilla porn. How screwed am I?? Thanks guys!!

 

[Phase2]

Sounds frustrating but I think you've found the right place by being here. Basically, you need to stop watching porn for good and stop masturbating. Read all about it here: http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/erectile-dysfunction-question

You can overcome it, buddy.

 

[CrateDane]

I agree with Phase2, give up porn now and stop masturbating, even if it just to "test" that you still function.
I also suggest starting doing Kegels, it helps control the orgasm. It doesnt mean you last longer as some people insist but it does help you control it more.

 

[cinefile77]

I had a similar problem with my longtime girlfriend. I'm glad I was able to learn about the brain chemistry part of porn. It helped more than just knowing it was bad for me.  Read up on it and take it one day at a time. My PIED went away within a few weeks and Im even able to use condoms. The real thing ended up being so much better with porn out of the picture. It all felt new again. It's very possible to have success with this. I wish I'd discovered this forum sooner. My previous years with her could've been so much better.

And like everyone else says, lose that death grip.  Find something else to do with your time when she's not around.