Day 4...So I decided that journaling, which I have never tried before, may be another key in beating this thing for good. I've also never really dug into the science behind the addiction, so I'm banking partially on the idea that knowledge is power.
A quick snapshot of my story...I'm 32, a Christian and married to a wife I love tremendously. In fact, she is the only woman I've ever been with physically and we've been together since I was 16.
I started with MO somewhere in the 9-10 range. Started with catalogs, and expanded to include magazine ads, and a porn mag or two through high school. Fortunately I didn't get into internet porn until 19. I had a laptop for college and started very slow (we had dial up). Into my adult years it escalated very slowly, but steadily.
My wife never had a clue.
In 2008, I had a breakdown of sorts when a bunch of things came to a head. I confessed it to her (she was devastated), we gave our lives to God and I experienced organic freedom from PMO with the life I always wanted. It really was a great feeling. I was basically clean for over a year or so (I wasn't counting, just living my life minus PMO)
Somehow over time I got lazy, careless, distracted, etc and started giving in to the temptations again. Over the last few years I have been trying to appease it and keep it moderate. That hasn't worked. It had evolved to 1-2 times a day and any other time that I found myself alone. I would PMO in the morning and I had found a way to make it happen on my lunch break.
No PIED, no lack of interest in my wife. I actually sought out women that reminded me of her. But was heavy into amateur women and lesbians. After my tastes continued to morph, I finally decided I can't keep letting this thing continue anymore. I want the life back that I remember.
My biggest issue is that I want to beat this thing the right way. I'm doing the reboot, praying and seeking God's help. For me, getting rid of my smartphone is not a practical option, and there will always be a source of temptation and access (I've even used our blu ray player and wii). I want to be able to say no on a consistent basis even when the opportunity is there.
I really appreciate the information on these sites. And I'm excited to start this journey.
A quick snapshot of my story...I'm 32, a Christian and married to a wife I love tremendously. In fact, she is the only woman I've ever been with physically and we've been together since I was 16.
I started with MO somewhere in the 9-10 range. Started with catalogs, and expanded to include magazine ads, and a porn mag or two through high school. Fortunately I didn't get into internet porn until 19. I had a laptop for college and started very slow (we had dial up). Into my adult years it escalated very slowly, but steadily.
My wife never had a clue.
In 2008, I had a breakdown of sorts when a bunch of things came to a head. I confessed it to her (she was devastated), we gave our lives to God and I experienced organic freedom from PMO with the life I always wanted. It really was a great feeling. I was basically clean for over a year or so (I wasn't counting, just living my life minus PMO)
Somehow over time I got lazy, careless, distracted, etc and started giving in to the temptations again. Over the last few years I have been trying to appease it and keep it moderate. That hasn't worked. It had evolved to 1-2 times a day and any other time that I found myself alone. I would PMO in the morning and I had found a way to make it happen on my lunch break.
No PIED, no lack of interest in my wife. I actually sought out women that reminded me of her. But was heavy into amateur women and lesbians. After my tastes continued to morph, I finally decided I can't keep letting this thing continue anymore. I want the life back that I remember.
My biggest issue is that I want to beat this thing the right way. I'm doing the reboot, praying and seeking God's help. For me, getting rid of my smartphone is not a practical option, and there will always be a source of temptation and access (I've even used our blu ray player and wii). I want to be able to say no on a consistent basis even when the opportunity is there.
I really appreciate the information on these sites. And I'm excited to start this journey.