long way to go.

too flacid

New Member
Hi..

I'm a 22 year old male suffering from PIED, Well.. I think it's porn induced since I am otherwise perfectly healthy but have a history of watching all kinds of porn, some quite extreme.

It has been over a year since I realised my problem after meeting my first girlfriend, our first two attempts at sex failed completely, I couldn't get past a semi, it just wasn't hard enough for penetration. After not seeing her for some time we tried again and managed an erection I would rate at around 90% and we had sex but this was short lived maybe only 2-3mins before my erection started to soften leaving her disappointed, I did attain a sufficient erection and we had sex on another occasion after this but I ejaculated a little prematurely again leaving her disappointed, after a couple more failures our relationship sadly broke down and now she wants nothing to do with me :( 

I have gone for over 2 months before today in hard mode (no porn or masturbation) but in that time I did still fantasise a little and sometimes played with myself but without orgasm so maybe it wasn't as "hard mode" as it should be.
Now I have seen porn for what it is I'm confident I will never watch it again but some of the fantasies are quite engrained in my mind and I'm hoping that in time that will fade then I can rewire.

I have not watched any porn this year 2015 as I made it my resolution to quit, that's it no more, but its the masturbation I keep relapsing on, I had done nearly a week masturbation free until today unfortunately I came across a sprite advert video on Facebook, it was simulating a girl giving a guy a blowjob with the finish being the opening of a bottle, this turned me on and before I knew it I had well sort of PMOD.. I'm now feeling disappointed in myself & pretty shitty about it.

In every other aspect of my life such as work, friends and the gym (I love to work out) I would consider myself to be a strong respectable man, although I just can't bring myself to confess my problem to anybody encase they don't understand, the damage porn can do is still quite a little known fact!

This is having a really negative impact on me, I no longer want to go out and meet girls, there have been times where I have actually chosen not to get involved with a girl because I simply couldn't take that heartbreak and sense of failure again. I was pretty much a virgin before my first girlfriend so these experiences have totally shattered my confidence.

Well.. that's my story any advice for the reboot would be greatly appreciated.
Best of luck to all you fellow sufferers
& it would be great to hear from those who have beat this thing!


 

Maxime

Active Member
Hang in there! You're still very young so there's plenty of time ahead of you to live porn-free!
If rejection is scaring you, maybe you could try approaching girls just as friends to start, without expecting sex. Because just avoiding them altogether is not a solution either.
Whenever you feel like M'ing, remember your objectives and goals, and shift your attention somewhere else. Something you like, a task you've been avoiding, anything. We're here with you, too!


 

too flacid

New Member
Hi Maxim

Thanks for the advice, It's good to know I'm not alone.
You are right, in some ways I think having a girl just as a friend would be beneficial. I am trying to fill spare time by learning languages (Currently studying Russian) because I love to travel, hopefully this kind of behaviour will help deflect my attentions from any porn or other false ways of arousal.

I am confident I can reach the 90 day goal (I'm only on day 2) and sustain it beyond that until I feel "rebooted" after then I will have to rewire and overcome the performance anxiety that has worsened due to my past experiences.
Like I said long way to go...

But thanks again :)
 
 

Fappy

Respected Member
I know the crushing feeling if despair from disappointing a partner sexually. Its awful and totally destroys ones confidence.
But i can tell you for certain that this works. Stick to your reboot plan and you will start to see results soon!

Fap-x
 
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