a_strange_boy
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Sooooo, here it goes. This is going to be my little journal for how I'm feeling with my abstention from fapping/porn etc. I don't particularly have any desire to write out a novella about my life, so I'm just going to note down a few points which may or may not be relevant;
Anyway, how do I plan on helping myself through this? Well I've got uni/work stuff on the go to keep me busy. I started playing piano at Christmas just for fun (and I've massively surprised myself by how much I've improved in that time!), I go to the gym regularly (any lifters?). I also read a lot so that will help.
Anyway...I'm on day 1.
- I'm gay. Growing up as a gay guy played a big role in my addiction to pornography/masturbation; I was unable to express these desires openly, I was unable to develop meaningful (for a 14 year old) relationship with people I was both romantically and sexually interested in. As such, the internet seemed like the only place I could do this....gay porn all over the place. This started off fairly mild but now the majority of context would fit into some fetish category.
- I started masturbating when I was very very young. Maybe between the ages of 7 or 8, possibly earlier?
- I've just turned 25, and I haven't really abstained from any porn/masturbation for any length of time. I used to have a very all or nothing attitude towards it (and other things in my life, such as diet/exercise/study etc.) but now I realise that even one relapse a week is much better than deciding you're going to lie down and watch hardcore porn 3-6 times a day.
- The weaknesses which I've noticed from previous attempts; when someone who I've slept with or have sexual chemistry with messages me. I'm not sure how ubiquitous naked pics/videos are in the heterosexual community, but gay guys are all over that stuff! It makes it quite a challenge at times to avoid engaging with people sexually. Another weakness is when I actively seek sex; because generally speaking other people cant drop everything at a moments notice for sex, and as such I end up fapping.
Anyway, how do I plan on helping myself through this? Well I've got uni/work stuff on the go to keep me busy. I started playing piano at Christmas just for fun (and I've massively surprised myself by how much I've improved in that time!), I go to the gym regularly (any lifters?). I also read a lot so that will help.
Anyway...I'm on day 1.