it creaps up on you and hides

Hello people,

the heading means simply this:: porn in something we do more and more of and before we know it, its the main focus of our lives ( it creaps up on us), then we try and find reason after reason and solution after solution trying to find out whats causing all the issuse in our lives but not realising it was porn all along ( it hides).

But now i have found you porn , hiding,  i found you and have emabrked on research on why have ended up with such stress.

The first time we ejaclate at about 14 years old its the most powerful and exciting thing that has ever happened to us. Its a complete adrenaline rush and from then on thats what we are looking for, to try and find that fix. So we wank and watch porn searching for that feeling, we use sugar, junk food, emotional attachement and who knows how many other things to find the answer. Unfortunately doing all of these activities leads to adreanal fatugue as well as the effects on the brain.

I have felt fucked for years, been doctors for tests and they say im fine, gave antidepressants and after two weeks felt worse so stopped. So i started to reaseach whats wrong, cut the sugar out, little better, cut junk food and pretty much every other thing i could think of but only felt slightly better. Then one morning after pmo 3 times in a none stop 4 hour session i then went to the coffee shop and i was like a complete zombie. Then it dawned on me, is it porn and masterbation.

Yes it is. It was hiding behind all of my other addictions and was the most powerful of all. I have been 30 days without porn, i have a girlfriend so still ejaculate 2 times a week but fukin hell the difference in my energy. The zombie died inside of me and now i have tonnes of energy. I have only one issue. What the fuck am i gonna do with all this spare time. I was pmo for a good 2 or 3 hours a day for years.

For some reason i have difficulty  self motivating and that shows me how i chose porn the fill the gap.

so in my opinion  its two things,

1, as a young person we first ejaculate  and from then on we look for the same massive rush
2, porn takes hold to cover up any issues we have, in my case self motivation.

so its my mission to use my time and become the man i should be without porn

thankyou to this website and all of you guys you have helped me so much,

 

neuenman

Member
Hi pal, I can relate to a lot of what you wrote. For the longest time I felt that there was something wrong with me, given my lack of motivation and apathy. And yet I failed to see it, it hides in plain sight, so for me it took years and years to recognize that PMO was behind my many failures. Now I have hope and I look forwards to the future, knowing that if I stay the course life can only get better. Stay strong, I'm sure you will beat the habit and make your life anew.
 
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Chile

Guest
TMW,

Very good insight. Porn crept up on me and I didn't even realize I was hopelessly addicted. If someone had helped me to understand my addiction I would not have felt a need to quit. Porn was such an exciting escape, even as the returns greatly diminished. I didn't know or even care that my porn escapes were making my reality heavier and foggier. I'm still finding out new things that porn had stolen from me. In the past, I would have thought someone was being a drama queen for talking like this. I want my energy back, my self-image restored, and the people around me to be encouraged. This porn crap has messed with all of our lives. I feel sorry for the poor fool who still thinks it's a victimless crime. 
 
Agreed,

The increase in use can be so gradual it's hard to detect you're developing a serious problem that can permeate your whole existence. Thank go we have found this site to break the cycle for us and give us the education that so many others could benefit from, hang in there, be strong.
 
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notgivinup

Guest
Hey TMW....you're right.

Little by little...and it becomes the thing we think we have to have....but it's what is killing us.

So...I'm glad you are leaving it behind.

I feel tons better and more alive now than I ever did...because I have left pmo.

Glad you are here.

Thanks,
pmo is NOT an option.
 
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