I've been trying to reboot for the last few weeks and it's been going okay. However, I have been struggling to stop MO and MO'd last night again while in the shower so I thought I'd start a journal here in an attempt to help me stop.
I'm 32 and have been watching P since I was about 13. I started watching adult movies.. moved up to the 10-minute adult channel free-views .. and then gradually moved onto internet porn when I was about 25. My addiction to internet porn got progressively worse over the last 2-3 years - I started living on my own and it was just so easy to PMO 'cos there was never anyone around. I went through phases of trying to stop but never really had any reason other than saying to myself that this probably isn't healthy. But.. after a few weeks or maybe even a month or two I'd be back. Like most people I didn't really see the harm in PMOing even though I had ED issues almost all the time with girls - I never made the connection. I always put it down to anxieties and nerves, but I realise now that it was porn.
I've had girlfriends through my 20's but never really had a successful sexual relationship with any of them. I could get hard with them but it would never be that strong and would never last. I started avoiding sexual encounters and a lot of the time if I brought a woman home I would end up just going down on her for ages and then tell her I was "too drunk" to get hard or make up some other bullshit excuse to avoid sex! I even started avoiding dating girls because I couldn't face the embarrassment of my ED issues even though I knew they were ALL in my head - it was nothing physical. When I watched P I would be rock hard and could keep it hard for ages.
I have been going out with a girl for the last few months. I met her while on holiday and we hit it off straight away. We've had sex a few times but a lot of the time I would get hard, go inside her, and gradually get softer while inside. This left her feeling pretty shit (and me too) because she thought I was not attracted to her. When I came home I really want to get to the bottom of my ED issues and that's when I discovered PIED. I have to say that so any things triggered in my brain - everything started to make sense to me. This is the root of my ED issues. I was both ecstatic and deeply regretful. I can't believe all the time I've wasted on something that has caused me so many issues but really happy that I know what the issue is and that it is curable.
My girlfriend and I are trying to keep the relationship going even with the distance (some 5,000 miles) and I am trying to use the time apart to reboot / rewire so that when I see her again things will be different (hopefully). I have told her about my P issues and she completely understands. She still is unsure that I am truly attracted to her (which is understandable) but I really hope I can show her the issue is not with her, it's with my brain. She arrives in 53 days to stay with me for 6 weeks.
So, I have not PMO'd in months but I have MO'd while fantasising about P (which I guess is really the same thing). I am finding it very hard not to MO so if anyone has advice on that it would be great. I have been reading everyone's journals and they are a big help. Most people seem to go through a flatline but for me that isn't the case - maybe it just hasn't been long enough without MO!? To be clear, when I've MO'd since starting my reboot I have not fantasised about P (about three weeks so far).
Here's to 53 days of NoFap and a healthier brain / life !!
I'm 32 and have been watching P since I was about 13. I started watching adult movies.. moved up to the 10-minute adult channel free-views .. and then gradually moved onto internet porn when I was about 25. My addiction to internet porn got progressively worse over the last 2-3 years - I started living on my own and it was just so easy to PMO 'cos there was never anyone around. I went through phases of trying to stop but never really had any reason other than saying to myself that this probably isn't healthy. But.. after a few weeks or maybe even a month or two I'd be back. Like most people I didn't really see the harm in PMOing even though I had ED issues almost all the time with girls - I never made the connection. I always put it down to anxieties and nerves, but I realise now that it was porn.
I've had girlfriends through my 20's but never really had a successful sexual relationship with any of them. I could get hard with them but it would never be that strong and would never last. I started avoiding sexual encounters and a lot of the time if I brought a woman home I would end up just going down on her for ages and then tell her I was "too drunk" to get hard or make up some other bullshit excuse to avoid sex! I even started avoiding dating girls because I couldn't face the embarrassment of my ED issues even though I knew they were ALL in my head - it was nothing physical. When I watched P I would be rock hard and could keep it hard for ages.
I have been going out with a girl for the last few months. I met her while on holiday and we hit it off straight away. We've had sex a few times but a lot of the time I would get hard, go inside her, and gradually get softer while inside. This left her feeling pretty shit (and me too) because she thought I was not attracted to her. When I came home I really want to get to the bottom of my ED issues and that's when I discovered PIED. I have to say that so any things triggered in my brain - everything started to make sense to me. This is the root of my ED issues. I was both ecstatic and deeply regretful. I can't believe all the time I've wasted on something that has caused me so many issues but really happy that I know what the issue is and that it is curable.
My girlfriend and I are trying to keep the relationship going even with the distance (some 5,000 miles) and I am trying to use the time apart to reboot / rewire so that when I see her again things will be different (hopefully). I have told her about my P issues and she completely understands. She still is unsure that I am truly attracted to her (which is understandable) but I really hope I can show her the issue is not with her, it's with my brain. She arrives in 53 days to stay with me for 6 weeks.
So, I have not PMO'd in months but I have MO'd while fantasising about P (which I guess is really the same thing). I am finding it very hard not to MO so if anyone has advice on that it would be great. I have been reading everyone's journals and they are a big help. Most people seem to go through a flatline but for me that isn't the case - maybe it just hasn't been long enough without MO!? To be clear, when I've MO'd since starting my reboot I have not fantasised about P (about three weeks so far).
Here's to 53 days of NoFap and a healthier brain / life !!