SeriousPhill
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Hello everybody call me Phill, i am 25 years old, i'm just gonna share my story with you all guys, i will be talking about what made me stop watching porn, what made me stop masturbating and how well i recovered after 2 months without porn and my suggestions in order to make the process go faster.
It started 3 months ago, i decided that i wanted to change one thing in my life, i wanted to approach women and have ability to find a girlfriend as soon as possible whenever i wanted.
I was studying pick up artists, behavior, body language, the psicology of what made me so shy and how to deal with it, i was changing somethings in my inner core really fast, i was watching documentaries, my whole time free i'd be on the street practicing or studying.
After a while, i found a link about how masturbating was bad to me, that when you masturbate, you are telling your body 'I just procreated, i just had sex, i don't need sex for a while', said that i started to analyse that, everytime i masturbate i was killing the lust i had to women, and i wanted to have a bigger lust, i wanted a lust that would break my fear, a lust bigger than my fear.
Then i started studying about masturbation, saw some stuff and i was like hum, make sense, let's just try this out and see where this leads me to.
I stopped masturbating, 2 weeks after i started to hang out with a girl that is today my girlfriend, in the first times we hang out i noticed that i was never getting really excited when kissing or grabbing her tits. It just didn't turned me on, i needed something stronger, that's when my paranoia came in because i never felt that way, my libido seemed too low.
After 2 weeks without masturbating my dick 'shrinked' and it was dead (few days after it went back to normal), i wouldn't get myself hard by touching me, i needed to think about the brutal sex i used to watch in order to get myself hard and i'm serious, i had a flat out i had ZERO desire to have sex, i would only want it if i was with her, but it wasn't even that big, it's just like, yeah sure, but it's not what i used to feel like 5 years ago.
After 3 weeks of no masturbating or porn, i noticed very big disconfort in my body, i was feeling like shit, my hands was sweating much more than common probably due to worry/anxiety and also because of 'addiction' because i was masturbating EVERYDAY since 15 (even when i didn't wanted to, it was a habit i had everytime i took a shower) i could cum without porn, sometimes i almost wouldn't be able to cum without porn but then i would just insist and finally be able to cum.
Lucky me, my girlfriend is extremely shy, i explained to her we do not have to rush just take your time, it was good for me and for her. I was able to recover part of me and at the same time give her time to break her shyness.
Well, after 2 months without porn, my libido is not normal yet but i can get myself hard easier by thinking about porn, i do not feel the desire to masturbate anymore, i completely quitted it right away, i never returned back i went from one day watching porn and masturbating to right away no porn and masturbationg, since then i jerked off 3 times, i did it because i wanted to and also because i was feeling pain inside of me, it's like my body is full of cum and i needed to blow my load for god sake, it's like my body needed more space, today, i can't explain how i feel, i feel fine but at the same time i feel weird, it seems like things aren't in the right place in my head.
That's my report, i will give you options to follow about thoughts and mind tricks that we give to ourselves, we trap ourselves and we do not see we doing it, how i did deal with all my emotions whenever things got extremely rough.
?First of, give yourself a break, promise to yourself to not masturbate and to not watch porn, write it in a paper and stick it in the wall or anything that reminds you at least a few times everyday, i believe that addiction is like a habbit, once you start to break the habbit the addiction starts to dissipate, the hardest thing to do is to break bad habbit and introduce a good habbit, Focus and do not give up, remenber that when you give up, you are restarting to breaking the habbit from ZERO.
?Have a diary, write on it everyday, having a diary is a way to know yourself better and self talk, what triggers your negative thinkings? What is reality and what is fantasy in your mind? What makes you feel good and what makes you feel bad? What is the solution for all those i described? Find what you want for your life, write on the diary what you want and FOCUS ON IT remenber that rebooting must not be your main objective in your life, you should and you must have other priorities.
?Do daily exercises, i do Yoga 2 times a week, go to jogging 2 times a week and also go to the Gym 3 times a week, this helped me to keep my nerves more calm, it won't fix your paranoia but it will help you 'disconnected' from the paranoia or taking your attention of the bad stuff, try to fill your mind with positive thinkings.
?I have a philosophy in my life which is, there is no reward without sacrifice, you must do things in order to be rewarded later on, action is the most important thing when your mind is out of control.
?You fight you don't run, you see fear you face it you do not run, if your walking forward you see everything on your path, if you see a shot coming, crouch, the moment you start walking backwards you do not see what's behind you, and that's when you fall.
?We give up because we lose patience, that's because we WANT immediately change, but your body and your mind needs time to change, you won't change your habbit from day to night, you won't change how you feel from day to night and you also won't recover from day to night.
?Relax your a human being, your not perfect your not a machine, accept the fact that you are going through some problem right now and that it will be restored with time, let it come naturally, let things fluid naturally, let it be what it is, accept it.
All the steps above is REALLY important, maybe it won't look important to you until you start to take action over them or maybe that's just my own experience report, if this doesnt' help you at least it gives you steps into the right direction to the right 'formula' for yourself, i found mine, you can find yours. I will be returning in this post later to keep the progress going.
Peace out.
It started 3 months ago, i decided that i wanted to change one thing in my life, i wanted to approach women and have ability to find a girlfriend as soon as possible whenever i wanted.
I was studying pick up artists, behavior, body language, the psicology of what made me so shy and how to deal with it, i was changing somethings in my inner core really fast, i was watching documentaries, my whole time free i'd be on the street practicing or studying.
After a while, i found a link about how masturbating was bad to me, that when you masturbate, you are telling your body 'I just procreated, i just had sex, i don't need sex for a while', said that i started to analyse that, everytime i masturbate i was killing the lust i had to women, and i wanted to have a bigger lust, i wanted a lust that would break my fear, a lust bigger than my fear.
Then i started studying about masturbation, saw some stuff and i was like hum, make sense, let's just try this out and see where this leads me to.
I stopped masturbating, 2 weeks after i started to hang out with a girl that is today my girlfriend, in the first times we hang out i noticed that i was never getting really excited when kissing or grabbing her tits. It just didn't turned me on, i needed something stronger, that's when my paranoia came in because i never felt that way, my libido seemed too low.
After 2 weeks without masturbating my dick 'shrinked' and it was dead (few days after it went back to normal), i wouldn't get myself hard by touching me, i needed to think about the brutal sex i used to watch in order to get myself hard and i'm serious, i had a flat out i had ZERO desire to have sex, i would only want it if i was with her, but it wasn't even that big, it's just like, yeah sure, but it's not what i used to feel like 5 years ago.
After 3 weeks of no masturbating or porn, i noticed very big disconfort in my body, i was feeling like shit, my hands was sweating much more than common probably due to worry/anxiety and also because of 'addiction' because i was masturbating EVERYDAY since 15 (even when i didn't wanted to, it was a habit i had everytime i took a shower) i could cum without porn, sometimes i almost wouldn't be able to cum without porn but then i would just insist and finally be able to cum.
Lucky me, my girlfriend is extremely shy, i explained to her we do not have to rush just take your time, it was good for me and for her. I was able to recover part of me and at the same time give her time to break her shyness.
Well, after 2 months without porn, my libido is not normal yet but i can get myself hard easier by thinking about porn, i do not feel the desire to masturbate anymore, i completely quitted it right away, i never returned back i went from one day watching porn and masturbating to right away no porn and masturbationg, since then i jerked off 3 times, i did it because i wanted to and also because i was feeling pain inside of me, it's like my body is full of cum and i needed to blow my load for god sake, it's like my body needed more space, today, i can't explain how i feel, i feel fine but at the same time i feel weird, it seems like things aren't in the right place in my head.
That's my report, i will give you options to follow about thoughts and mind tricks that we give to ourselves, we trap ourselves and we do not see we doing it, how i did deal with all my emotions whenever things got extremely rough.
?First of, give yourself a break, promise to yourself to not masturbate and to not watch porn, write it in a paper and stick it in the wall or anything that reminds you at least a few times everyday, i believe that addiction is like a habbit, once you start to break the habbit the addiction starts to dissipate, the hardest thing to do is to break bad habbit and introduce a good habbit, Focus and do not give up, remenber that when you give up, you are restarting to breaking the habbit from ZERO.
?Have a diary, write on it everyday, having a diary is a way to know yourself better and self talk, what triggers your negative thinkings? What is reality and what is fantasy in your mind? What makes you feel good and what makes you feel bad? What is the solution for all those i described? Find what you want for your life, write on the diary what you want and FOCUS ON IT remenber that rebooting must not be your main objective in your life, you should and you must have other priorities.
?Do daily exercises, i do Yoga 2 times a week, go to jogging 2 times a week and also go to the Gym 3 times a week, this helped me to keep my nerves more calm, it won't fix your paranoia but it will help you 'disconnected' from the paranoia or taking your attention of the bad stuff, try to fill your mind with positive thinkings.
?I have a philosophy in my life which is, there is no reward without sacrifice, you must do things in order to be rewarded later on, action is the most important thing when your mind is out of control.
?You fight you don't run, you see fear you face it you do not run, if your walking forward you see everything on your path, if you see a shot coming, crouch, the moment you start walking backwards you do not see what's behind you, and that's when you fall.
?We give up because we lose patience, that's because we WANT immediately change, but your body and your mind needs time to change, you won't change your habbit from day to night, you won't change how you feel from day to night and you also won't recover from day to night.
?Relax your a human being, your not perfect your not a machine, accept the fact that you are going through some problem right now and that it will be restored with time, let it come naturally, let things fluid naturally, let it be what it is, accept it.
All the steps above is REALLY important, maybe it won't look important to you until you start to take action over them or maybe that's just my own experience report, if this doesnt' help you at least it gives you steps into the right direction to the right 'formula' for yourself, i found mine, you can find yours. I will be returning in this post later to keep the progress going.
Peace out.
