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Brodie
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OK, Here Goes
Let me confess. I am one scared puppy.
At 58 years old and I have not gone without PMO for more than 24 hours, over the past 45 years. It wasn?t everyday when I started (at 13 years old) but I made up for it later. I started with magazines and progressed through all possible changes in technology. Magazines were collected, soft to hard. Those were hidden and maintained until I threw them out in disgust. Then the cycle would repeat. When VHS came out I rented players, made copies of rented videos and collected again. This process was repeated again and again. Next was dial up Internet with downloads. Finally, I was streaming everything through high speed Internet. Some days I would repeat PMO up to 3-5 times a day, edging for hours on end. Each session was only to be a few minutes long. Hours later I would finally O. I would then look at the clock and realize I was out of control. I never finished thinking the time was well spent.
I wasted a lot of time with this behavior.
Now for a bit of background? I have been married for over 30 years to a wonderful woman. We raised two boys. They are now grown and on their own. My wife has known about my PMO habit and has never been judgmental. However, she has been frustrated with my lack of ambition, my lack of intimacy, and my distant behavior. Over the years I talked to her about my concerns but was never able to stop.
Honestly, I am not sure what began this current attempt to break the cycle. I guess it was my wife saying, ?You know, you can download pod casts on sex addiction.? I started to search and then to listen. After that I found YBOP and the video that explained how porn affects the brain. I am now on my way to a week of no PMO.
I am still scared. I know that it will get harder before it gets better. I only recently (last two years?) had any problems with ED. I attributed it to being close to 60 but honestly; I now realize its direct connection to porn.
I want to stop. I need to stop. I am so glad to have found YBOP and Reboot Nation.
Let me confess. I am one scared puppy.
At 58 years old and I have not gone without PMO for more than 24 hours, over the past 45 years. It wasn?t everyday when I started (at 13 years old) but I made up for it later. I started with magazines and progressed through all possible changes in technology. Magazines were collected, soft to hard. Those were hidden and maintained until I threw them out in disgust. Then the cycle would repeat. When VHS came out I rented players, made copies of rented videos and collected again. This process was repeated again and again. Next was dial up Internet with downloads. Finally, I was streaming everything through high speed Internet. Some days I would repeat PMO up to 3-5 times a day, edging for hours on end. Each session was only to be a few minutes long. Hours later I would finally O. I would then look at the clock and realize I was out of control. I never finished thinking the time was well spent.
I wasted a lot of time with this behavior.
Now for a bit of background? I have been married for over 30 years to a wonderful woman. We raised two boys. They are now grown and on their own. My wife has known about my PMO habit and has never been judgmental. However, she has been frustrated with my lack of ambition, my lack of intimacy, and my distant behavior. Over the years I talked to her about my concerns but was never able to stop.
Honestly, I am not sure what began this current attempt to break the cycle. I guess it was my wife saying, ?You know, you can download pod casts on sex addiction.? I started to search and then to listen. After that I found YBOP and the video that explained how porn affects the brain. I am now on my way to a week of no PMO.
I am still scared. I know that it will get harder before it gets better. I only recently (last two years?) had any problems with ED. I attributed it to being close to 60 but honestly; I now realize its direct connection to porn.
I want to stop. I need to stop. I am so glad to have found YBOP and Reboot Nation.