starting out

[fgpied]

so after many years of varied interests here I am

chat rooms were always an easy way to talk to girls

then IMing etc

porn itself isn't a huge deal more all the associations, frequently dropping back into chat rooms

last year single so was tindering, always looking for the next hottest dirtiest most different girl

gave it up along with some social media in dec but still found ahrd to avoid lapsing back to chat rooms

been with a girl for 6 months - if i havent seen her in days im incredibly quikcly turned on and very hard. but frequency urges drops.

video chat etc i dont find myself fully hard with her

have gone nearly 3 weeks, a month etc here and there but decided to use this to help commit to it starting today 1st june. want to quit deciding after an orgasm that this will be the day i stop. but once and for all to beat this

helps reading all thr stuff here, thank you

 

[pinkerton]

Welcome fgpied. Hope you find this site helpful. I know what you mean about deciding this is the day you stop After orgasm. Good luck to you.

 

[joe_ireland]

Good luck fgpied!

 

[Philgood63]

Glad to welcome you with us fgpied. You will find great support here, advices, ideas, encouragement... but don't forget you will make your journey alone, because the willpower to do it is nowhere but inside all of us ! So good luck and be strong, man.

 

[fgpied]

Thanks All, appreciate the words. Simply being here and knowing other have had similar pathways helps very much. Starting the day with this attitude!

 

[fgpied]

Start of day 3! Just checking in to stick at it. 3rd day after no MO is normal to get the distractions and lack of focus. Today will be different thinking of the chaps that have worked through this. 10 days to get to first target of 2 weeks

 

[fgpied]

Well folks I'ver made it to a week! it helped I was away on a course this weekend which occupied me during I time I normally would be bored or at a loose end and relapse. So far I've found it quite easy but it the past I've had varied success and made it to this stage easily too, so it's the next steps from here to work at. In another 6 days I'll see my girlfriend and as usual the first time we have sex will be a novelty after a few weeks without and I'll likely have zero probs being very hard and having to hold back the O. This is always great and I'm hoping that by committing to and sticking at this that the subsequent sex will be equally fulfilling through harder erections and stronger O. I've found in the past 18months when I was with someone new the novelty freed me up and I could cum so hard, often shooting big loads great distances. I know it's always been the novelty of a new partner or IM buddy or facetime partner etc that I was getting off on. I do have slow reload (refractory period) which often bothered me too and can cause some anxiety issues as I'll mentally want to desire sex but am just not there. I never, even as a younger guy, was able to get hard again soon. 12-24 hrs would be normal for me my whole life (even before chat rooms, high speed interent etc). I'm curious if this no PMO etc will affect that over time, or if that's just my make up for whatever reason. I've tested myself in a weird way before so see how chatrooms etc affected my reload after sex or MO in the past with varied results, but mostly still the 12-24 hrs and a much lesser O.  Do any guys have thoughts or experience of this too? It helps to be able to write this and share over this first week and I feel very strong about making it through to next weekend and on from there.

 

[fgpied]

10 days and bar the odd mental wobble of picturing old contacts and oggling randoms its started well. Seeing my girl this weekend. will be hard as i dont want to have to finish myself off to O so will happily go slow and steady and not O for now. after this weekend it'll be the first target of 2 weeks and then from there i'll head for a month and then the 90days. thank you all so far it's been an awesome helped and roll on this weekend