Do I need to reboot? Seeking answers form people with similar experiences

Hello, I just registered on this forum because I'm quite worried about my situation and maybe someone can help. I'll try to write my "story" (it's not anything special or strange, but I have some doubts and fears). English is not my native languase so I may commit some mistakes, sorry.

I'm 22 and never had sex. Until some weeks ago I would have said that I never related to a woman or girl.
The point is, quite strangely, weeks ago a girl made advaces to me, and I accepted because I kind of like her.
Until this age, I obviously masturbated. I think I began at age 14-15. My routine should have been constant until this age: 2-3 times a week. Is that considered porn addiction? (I will go on and add that since 4-5 years I have been fapping on japanese erotic comics and drawings, or hentai manga)
I dated this girl two times (first dates of my life) and I put close attention to what was happening to my penis and my "sexual arousal", because I heard of guys having rock hard erections (or similar) just by staying near some real woman they were attracted to.

I had fun and all, at the end of the second date I kind of kissed her too, but I found that I was not having full erections, just some sort of "tugidity", let's say half erections, when I was touching her in a playful attitude.

I don't know if that's normal or not, if a normal guy should have full erections or something.
Right now, if I think about having sex with said girl, I don't feel that I would be able to get and mantain an erection. As opposed to hentai porn, in which I feel confident in being able to get an erection really easily. This girl is kind of cute and I like being with her but not as beautiful as the characters I usually fap to. How could I get REALLY aroused, not counting other various anxiogenic factors?

I feel like that real women can't arouse me to the point of having sex naturally. For example, in my life, I never found a girl capable of arousing me just from their presence (this even before I began fapping to hentai).
I seem to understand that that kind of things happen to guys from time to time. They talk about having unwanted erections in embarassing situations (I never had those), or feeling the urge to masturbate thinking about their crush. I had some crushes in my life, but I never thought about them when masturbating. Even when I was really young and I was beginning to masturbate just using my mind (not knowing porn), I just thought about sex "per se", never thought about existing girls.
Maybe I have lower levels of libido? Maybe some ormonal deficit?

The second part of my fear comes from the fact that I am not observing morning woods anymore. When I sleep, I sometimes wake up a bit and see that I have some kind of erection, but not as hard as they used to be. I used to have problems peeing in the middle of the night because of the erection, but not anymore. In the past week I never woke up in the morning with an erection, and if I recall correctly, maybe 10 days ago, I woke up with a weak erection that faded away rapidly.

Given these elements, do you think I should start with rebooting? I know that that may be a difficult question since I can't exactly say I have porn induced-ED since I never attempted a sexual intercourse, but in the past few days I have been really worried about these things. Maybe someone went past a similar situation? I want to start working on whatever wrong I have in my body as soon as possible, before any kind of problem becomes unsolvable.


 

SETI

Active Member
Hello there!

Its normal not to have erections just being around girls. For me, it only really happens when I am intimate with a girl. Touching, kissing etc. There might be people who are more horny but I don't think thats the norm.

If you need a reboot or not is hard to say. There is a way to test it thou.

Can you maintain a solid erection from touch alone? No fantasy, no outer stimulation, no porn or anything. Just by yourself focusing on touch.

Give it a shot!

Also, there is no harm in not watching porn if you are worried that might be the problem. If you find it hard to stay away then maybe that is a sign of addiction?
 
If I don't watch porn after 2-3 days I feel a strong urge to go and watch porn. It's kind of like a biological clock. But I never tried seriously to stop fapping to porn for a while.

As for that test, I indeed read about it on the site, I'm kind of scared to do it. I'll try it tomorrow when I'll be (hopefully) more relaxed.
 
Using ONLY touch I can't mantain a full erection. I tried it now. It gets quite erected after a while (let's say 90%) but then decays. I think I can't possibly cum right now without at least some imagination.
Guess I need some reboot.
 

dc6

Member
I don't know if I can possibly use strong enough words to emphasize how badly you need a reboot without being offensive. It's quite clear, and I'm telling you that you have several issues I had as well. Right now. Stop watching any kind of porn right now.
 

dc6

Member
The biggest one was I used to have difficulty getting or staying hard without porn. That has definitely been cured. My morning erections have returned and have started to be very hard. My overall interest in women, and in life, has also improved greatly. I don't walk around with erections from girls passing by me wearing perfume, but I have been able to get firm erections from sensation alone (no porn or thoughts) for a couple weeks now.
 
I just got a full erection without the stimulation of fanasy or porn. Maybe I will be able to have sex without problems someday
 

SETI

Active Member
Checkpoint said:
I just got a full erection without the stimulation of fanasy or porn. Maybe I will be able to have sex without problems someday

Thats good news! But you should still be mindful of the kind of damage porn does to us. I would be careful..
 
The girl I was dating lost interest in me, so I'm back to sentimental loneliness. Nonetheless I'm still decided on getting rid of my porn conditioning.
The problem is that I won't be able to "rewire" to normal sex without a partner, as I had previuosly planned.
I'm almost at two weeks without porn, and I feel I can continue indefinitely. The probability of succesfully meeting another potential partner, though, is very, very low. But obviously not nil. So if that will be the case, I want to be prepared.

What concerns me is what many people say about periodic ejaculation in order to reduce prostate cancer or something like that. If, say, I wait 2-3 months (as that should be the standard reboot period) and I feel I'm back to "normal", should I start fapping again (without porn, just touch) or can I stop fapping for the rest of my life without risks?
 
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