jacob2010
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Hi, my name is Jacob... N I do not know if I am addicted to porn or not but I came for advice because I am very na?ve and I make little problems huge and obsess about them so I felt this site might help me a little or I might discover that I actually have an addiction. I hope no one judges me for being a gay male and no one says hurtful words but I am 23 and wanting advice to ease my anxiety. I was performing sexual acts with a partner yesterday and I couldn't keep an erection. We've known each other for 5 years and recently we went through a half a year with having issues and I feel it's too soon to seek comfort from him. He was my best friend and recently we have been talking again to rekindle. However we talked and this was our second sexual act from our gap of communication and I couldn't keep an erection.. It made me worry because I never had an issue before or the first sexual act after the gap but I've been worried of being able to keep an erection. Anyways.. I have actually reached to my soul and been soul searching a question society and the universe. I am a huge conspiracy theorist, but to keep on track, I just trusted my intuition and my intuition was telling me to stop watching porn because it gives us false expectations and it actually hurts our sexuality. I questioned this because before, my male best friend/hope to be partner and I did sexual acts I watched porn for probably 5 to 7 hours. (HOPEFULLY THIS DOESN'T TRIGGER PEOPLE'S NEGATIVE WAY OF THINKING) but I have noticed that If I am off work and bored I will watch porn for 5 or 6 hours a day... just to watch it.. N I question Why.... but I just thought to myself that it's just what I do and I'm sure other guys are worse.... Anywho...I realized that I have watched a lot of pornography in my lifetime. Not only for pleasure but because I also tried to change my sexuality because it wasn't accepted in my family and my step dad mentally abused me.. (not trying to play the victim or blame them for my issue, however it seem I could have started an addiction when I was younger and not realized it.) Is it possible to be addicted but have episodes where you go away from the substance and then come back? PROBABLY. Anyways... I couldn't keep my erection yesterday... n for some reason I came to a youtube site about porn addiction and this guy was talking about erectile dysfunctions, not being focused, and having major anxiety.. So, I could sorta relate but in my mind I do not have an addiction. Something in my heart just told me to not watch porn anymore and that it's bad for the soul and for the expectations. Before I fell in love with my best friend, I did have an idea of what my partner should look like and in my mind this fictional character looked like the men in the porn industry. These men with unrealistic looks, that I don't even have. However, recently, I have been in touch with my inner being and soul searching and the other night, after watching 5 to 7 hours of porn and not even getting off just staying erected.. I thought it was wrong and unhealthy and weird and then after this erectile dysfunction episode.. I got nervous cause I don't want to not be aroused to someone I love.. I want to be able to please this person... (hope people are not offended by homosexuals.. sorry if you are.. I'm just seeking help because I've never experienced a erectile dysfunction and I was told that it only happens to old men 40 years or older.. but because I worry, I have been researching erectile dysfunctions and they say erectile dysfunctions can happen to younger men psychological wise...
Anywho.. I used to watch straight porn as well to try and change my sexual orientation and I would spend hours and hours everyday to try and get aroused by women.. n now and again I would watch gay porn for 5 or 6 hours a day.. but I did have episodes of not watching porn but I would always come back.. so... anyone give good advice to help me a little. I scheduled an appointment with a therapist but I don't go until June 9th.. wish it was sooner.... Anywho... thanks to those who have read and didn't judge cause of my sexuality.. Thank you
Anywho.. I used to watch straight porn as well to try and change my sexual orientation and I would spend hours and hours everyday to try and get aroused by women.. n now and again I would watch gay porn for 5 or 6 hours a day.. but I did have episodes of not watching porn but I would always come back.. so... anyone give good advice to help me a little. I scheduled an appointment with a therapist but I don't go until June 9th.. wish it was sooner.... Anywho... thanks to those who have read and didn't judge cause of my sexuality.. Thank you