Hi Billy, I am in day 55 of a reboot....I see the light and have cleared my mind of the porn visions......Read the book Your brain on porn! When I understood the science, I realized how destructive porn is to the nerve endings! The book motivated me to stay strong and spread the word to the younger generation who's access to porn is immense! Exercise, meditation and reboot nation will help but if you want a truly great sex life with real people you must make leap! REBOOT NATION is here for you!New here. I keep losing it every weekend and look at P. I have no girlfriend. Every weekend I keep doing this. Lonely.
How do I break the cycle?
As of now I’m on day 0 again.
It's gonna take knowing the triggers that set off the porn response......start your reboot again and do your best to fight off a response to the triggers!.....if you are having problems with sexual function, that should be motivation enough to give stopping porn a shot! You can do it!I read the book and lasted 2 weeks since my first post.
Got laid last weekend and felt good. Relapsed this weekend and feel awful now.
What can I do to improve my chance of not relapsing again?
When I get in the shower....my mind starts to fantasize.......I catch it and stop.....sometimes I start to masturbate....I take deep breaths and turn the cold water up......the other triggers I have overcome was when my wife would leave or when she was asleep! My main problem was boredom.......but after I read your brain on porn......I stopped cold turkey...the shower is my nemesis.....but I'm day 71 of my reboot and have not masturbated! Every person has different triggers!How do you identify triggers and know how to better respond? Do you have examples?
I feel awful today. It is like a digital hang over.
Serious question here: Does "starting to masturbate" count as a relapse. Or only if you O? I'm struggling this with myself.When I get in the shower....my mind starts to fantasize.......I catch it and stop.....sometimes I start to masturbate....I take deep breaths and turn the cold water up......the other triggers I have overcome was when my wife would leave or when she was asleep! My main problem was boredom.......but after I read your brain on porn......I stopped cold turkey...the shower is my nemesis.....but I'm day 71 of my reboot and have not masturbated! Every person has different triggers!
It's really the fantasy that starts the process but I stop before erection.....it's being aware of the mind f@#k! But I will let you know when my wife and I attempt sex......we had sex day 45 of my reboot and I had to fight off my shower fantasizes before that day...so I don't think I relapsed???!!!!Serious question here: Does "starting to masturbate" count as a relapse. Or only if you O? I'm struggling this with myself.
Good! I didn't mean to suggest that you did relapse. Just trying to figure out the truth. Maybe everyone has their own understanding of what a relapse means, which would make sense.It's really the fantasy that starts the process but I stop before erection.....it's being aware of the mind f@#k! But I will let you know when my wife and I attempt sex......we had sex day 45 of my reboot and I had to fight off my shower fantasizes before that day...so I don't think I relapsed???!!!!
I got that....but it is a great question because everyone's responses could be different! We are searching for our truth! Thanks brother!Good! I didn't mean to suggest that you did relapse. Just trying to figure out the truth. Maybe everyone has their own understanding of what a relapse means, which would make sense.
For me, this forum, Your Brain on Porn and The Easy Peasy Method really helped me. Maybe they will help you as well. The Easy Peasy Method is a free book that really puts porn in to perspective. It helped me realize what I was gaining by quitting, not what I was losing. When I read it, it just made sense and something clicked in my brain. I still have the compulsion to look at porn but it is fading and when I start to think about porn, I prefer to come here and read journals, write in my own and talk to people who are also struggling. It is been the best thing for me.Can anyone recommend strategies to stop using internet pornography?
Recently I have been applying for jobs and facing too much rejection, and that could be a trigger.
Also I deactivated my online dating account because the rejection kept adding up and probably led me to feel rejected and led to more internet pornography.
My social life is not the best and on weekends I feel rejected more and it leads to internet pornography. I need to make my weekends more structured with places to be and people to see, but I am unsure how.