22 year old, day 29, need to reach out

og123xx

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Hey so im following youtube videos to help me get through all of this. I have tried to quit porn sooo many times before. I have struggled with delayed ejaculation and also a lot of shame about the porn I'm watching. Feel free to message me privately and chat on this thread with me.

We can support each other!
 

og123xx

Member
I am still allowing myself to masterbate but I am trying to quit porn. I have started trying to engage more with the real world by going for coffee etc, to give myself the 'rewards' in the real world rather than on the screen.
 

og123xx

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Day 30. Not had much urge to relapse to be fair. Had a fair bit of social contact which seems to do the trick. Not got any more days left of the 30 day youtube program I've been watching though. Will have to think about this
 

og123xx

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Day 31. Had a few urges to relapse but didn't. Going to keep reading some of the literature of addiction
I had spoken to a therapist about this and he agreed I had problematic porn use, so now I have accepted I have an issue, I can now start to tackle it seriously. In the past I had people telling me its not an addiction, but THIS was exactly what led me back to the screen
 
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Hey mate, congrats on making it through to 31 days. Glad to see that you're taking this seriously and accepted that this is a serious issue in your life and taking steps to move from it.

When I first started I talked to a therapist which was a massive help in helping me realize why I was watching so much porn and get through some past traumas. I've relapsed a couple of times but the support I've had from others on this forum has been an important part of my progress.
From my experiences, having things to do like socializing or just keeping busy to keep your mind off things works and looks like youre doing well at that.

Flick me a message if you ever want to chat.
Cant wait to see all your progress.
 

og123xx

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Hey mate, congrats on making it through to 31 days. Glad to see that you're taking this seriously and accepted that this is a serious issue in your life and taking steps to move from it.

When I first started I talked to a therapist which was a massive help in helping me realize why I was watching so much porn and get through some past traumas. I've relapsed a couple of times but the support I've had from others on this forum has been an important part of my progress.
From my experiences, having things to do like socializing or just keeping busy to keep your mind off things works and looks like youre doing well at that.

Flick me a message if you ever want to chat.
Cant wait to see all your progress.
Thanks for taking the time to write a very nice message. I'll be sure to keep updating this space!
 

og123xx

Member
So I guess its day 32/33 haha! Not much urge as I've been busy. I am trying to remind myself that despite this 'honeymoon period' where I'm on a streak, relapse can strike on 'day 1000'!
 

og123xx

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day 33, evening time! Talked with an acquaintance about porn addiction today and was probably a healthy thing to do. Social media has triggered a few feelings to go and watch porn
 
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Doing well my dude, love to see it. It takes some courage and vulnerability to open up to someone about something like this, took me some time to open up to close friends about it.

Social media definitely has some triggers depending on what you allow on your feed. When I first started I told myself that looking at half naked girls on socials was better than porn until I started getting the same side effects. One of the best decisions I made was reduce my social media time and remove the apps from my phone.

Loving your progress so far, keep it up!!
 

og123xx

Member
Doing well my dude, love to see it. It takes some courage and vulnerability to open up to someone about something like this, took me some time to open up to close friends about it.

Social media definitely has some triggers depending on what you allow on your feed. When I first started I told myself that looking at half naked girls on socials was better than porn until I started getting the same side effects. One of the best decisions I made was reduce my social media time and remove the apps from my phone.

Loving your progress so far, keep it up!!
Thank you, brother. How's your reboot going?
 

og123xx

Member
So Christmas has been and I've had a few days away from here - I must be on day 37. I think I've got COVID so this next week is going to be tough as I know I will be compelled to watch porn!!!
 

boston36

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it is normal that you dream about that! Don’t beat your self up. That is something you can’t control. I am on day 28 now and it has been tough. But we can do it! I had covid too a couple of months ago and for me I felt so sick with fever that I didn’t even wanted to touch myself. Hopefully you are asymptomatic and are able to be strong and control your urges! I was alone for this past week. Even in Christmas Eve and I didn’t relapse, I wanted to so bad, but I didn’t! Stay strong!
 

og123xx

Member
it is normal that you dream about that! Don’t beat your self up. That is something you can’t control. I am on day 28 now and it has been tough. But we can do it! I had covid too a couple of months ago and for me I felt so sick with fever that I didn’t even wanted to touch myself. Hopefully you are asymptomatic and are able to be strong and control your urges! I was alone for this past week. Even in Christmas Eve and I didn’t relapse, I wanted to so bad, but I didn’t! Stay strong!
Thanks for giving me a message, really appreciate it. Yes, my symptoms aren't too bad!
 

og123xx

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So yeah I'm still on my streak but I don't know if anyone can relate but it's just so tempting to watch porn. Like porn is soo good because it's just everything you want sexually at the click of a finger. Seeing a girl on youtube makes me want to do it. We MUST all have such strength to NOT give in to these urges. It is not good to look at porn. It's natural for us to want an orgasm or whatever but afterwards its like "is that it?".... an orgasm really isn't all that compared to the damage that porn brings - namely, sexual dysfunction, extreme/dodgy types of porn, lack of relationships and happiness, pleasure-seeking and not true happiness.

You know I sometimes think why porn is so hard to quit is because we can convince ourselves why porn is not so bad after all. Like when I was writing the list above of reasons why it's bad, I was thinking it doesn't sound as bad as you were making out the other day. But this is the HIJACKER in your brain. It's like the voice in your brain that you cannot give in to.

Another reason. What is a huge reason we are on this planet, we are wired to experience love in our lives - an amazing relationship. A relationship that is sexually fulfilling and therefore fulfilling in every other way. For us addicts, porn is going to take ALL of that away -- just for the sake of a few second high of an orgasm. It was spiral you into viewing all the time and never finding true happiness.
 

jberg

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For us addicts, porn is going to take ALL of that away -- just for the sake of a few second high of an orgasm. It was spiral you into viewing all the time and never finding true happiness.
This is the absolute truth! Thanks for spelling it out so plainly.
 

og123xx

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Still going quite strong. Covid hit me kinda hard but not too bad. I'm masterbating about once a day at the moment but I am struggling with euphoric recall to porn I watched a while ago (which is also not very 'vanilla' type porn genre). Any advice?
 
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Still going quite strong. Covid hit me kinda hard but not too bad. I'm masterbating about once a day at the moment but I am struggling with euphoric recall to porn I watched a while ago (which is also not very 'vanilla' type porn genre). Any advice?
What do you imagine while masturbating? (Don't be specific because it might trigger yourself or others).
 
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