jberg
Active Member
og123, I admire your capacity for honesty that you are showing here. That takes a lot of courage. Truthfulness is the foundation of any human relationship. I have found that this forum and other recovery venues provided a safe place for me to practice truthfulness. Before coming here, I was NEVER truthful about this aspect of my life, and so had to tell other lies to cover up what I was doing. Lying to make myself look good became second nature to me. Lack of truthfulness was one of the major barriers to me finding intimacy with others.
I think desire for intimacy is natural. My attempt to fill that desire with my isolating obsession with MO had not worked. Just as I would quench my thirst with a glass of water, or satisfy my hunger with a good meal, it makes more sense that I cure my loneliness by finding true intimacy. The natural sex instinct is a power means of connecting. I had distorted my sex instinct and so had hamstrung my ability to connect with others.However this desire for intimacy bubbles up every so often and I'm like I want a relationship