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cheeseck

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Merry Christmas everyone!

While all of you had a nice Christmas, I will tell you how it went for me.

So I have been dating this girl for a year now. Every time we wanted to have sex, it wouldn't get up. I blamed it on performance anxiety or "oh I didn't get enough sleep". But last night my girlfriend was super turned on and I felt helpless. This really hurt her and her. I am super blessed to have a girlfriend who actually listens and understands that its okay to not get a boner. But she was unaware that all this is caused because I consume porn on the daily basis.

TODAY I opened up to her and she still was super understanding and offered to help me through this. I haven't had sex for 2 years now and I really want to get back and feel good and have sex. I get a boner when I watch porn but not when my girl touches me or tries to turn me on. Today is Dec 25, 2022. My birthday is on Sep 19, I have 9 months I want to recover from this really bad.

Can anyone tell me how long it usually takes to reboot? I have tried to quit porn and masturbation and my max streak was 1 month but this time I am willing to extend it for a long. I want to change.

Today marks DAY 1 and I will come back every day to write about my day and how I went to keep myself accountable. Feel free to drop your journal in the thread. An accountable partner is a must!

Oh and a little about me, I am 23 years old and I have been watching porn since 13-15 years old (don't quite remember when I started). I have been in multiple relationships until age 21 and I have had sex a lot. But only lately I am facing ED. I hope this is since I have conditioned my brain to porn and can be fixed.

See you tomorrow.
 
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cheeseck

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Day 2

It was a good Day 1. Felt accomplished. Not thinking about it and going to bed early helps. I still cant sleep well but I am trying to incorporate sleeping slightly early into this.
 
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Moore0

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cheeseck said:
Merry Christmas everyone!

While all of you had a nice Christmas, I will tell you how it went for me.

So I have been dating this girl for a year now. Every time we wanted to have sex, it wouldn't get up. I blamed it on performance anxiety or "oh I didn't get enough sleep". But last night my girlfriend was super turned on and I felt helpless. This really hurt her and her. I am super blessed to have a girlfriend who actually listens and understands that its okay to not get a boner. But she was unaware that all this is caused because I consume porn on the daily basis.

TODAY I opened up to her and she still was super understanding and offered to help me through this. I haven't had sex for 2 years now and I really want to get back and feel good and have sex. I get a boner when I watch porn but not when my girl touches me or tries to turn me on. Today is Dec 25, 2022. My birthday is on Sep 19, I have 9 months I want to recover from this really bad.

Can anyone tell me how long it usually takes to reboot? I have tried to quit porn and masturbation and my max streak was 1 month but this time I am willing to extend it for a long. I want to change.

Today marks DAY 1 and I will come back every day to write about my day and how I went to keep myself accountable. Feel free to drop your journal in the thread. An accountable partner is a must!

Oh and a little about me, I am 23 years old and I have been watching porn since 13-15 years old (don't quite remember when I started). I have been in multiple relationships until age 21 and I have had sex a lot. But only lately I am facing ED. I hope this is since I have conditioned my brain to porn and can be fixed.

See you tomorrow.
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Hey man there is no handbook to this thing . I was in a similar spot few weeks when I noticed the first signs of PEID and it shook me , i was consuming porn too in the past but still managed to have sex and perform at a good level for years , granted that I had some maybe tops 3 encounters where I didn’t come up but I charged it to its not my day today . It wasn’t until it hit me weeks ago that had me looking for solutions and I came across this forum and learnt what this thing had done to me , like me it seems you’re in the early stages and the Perfect time to Nip it in the bud. I am on day 45 of abstinence from porn and I can tell you some days are awesome some days hard , the major issue I had after the first PIED was anxiety and even now so I’m beginning to get out of it . Be patient , walk the walk and keep going , time is definitely on our side to cut this out. Good luck
 
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cheeseck

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Deepdiver said:
Your really fortunate to have a supportive girlfriend. Keep being totally honest with her. I would even suggest to her that she educate herself on what porn did to the brain. The more she knows the better things will be between you. Stay strong!
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Hey, Yes I told her to also research on this and ask me questions if she needs to. I want both of us to be happy
 
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cheeseck

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Moore0 said:
Hey man there is no handbook to this thing . I was in a similar spot few weeks when I noticed the first signs of PEID and it shook me , i was consuming porn too in the past but still managed to have sex and perform at a good level for years , granted that I had some maybe tops 3 encounters where I didn’t come up but I charged it to its not my day today . It wasn’t until it hit me weeks ago that had me looking for solutions and I came across this forum and learnt what this thing had done to me , like me it seems you’re in the early stages and the Perfect time to Nip it in the bud. I am on day 45 of abstinence from porn and I can tell you some days are awesome some days hard , the major issue I had after the first PIED was anxiety and even now so I’m beginning to get out of it . Be patient , walk the walk and keep going , time is definitely on our side to cut this out. Good luck
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Hey man! I appreciate it. and congratulations on the 45 day streak! Yeah Even I had so much anxiety after first PIED and I didnt know what was happening until it happned EVERY time I wanted to have sex. That is the main reason why I want to get through this. How is your PIED now? Is it recovered fully or getting there?
 
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cheeseck

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DAY 3:

Hitting the gym with my girl today and later going shopping. Just doing things to hangout. I advised my girlfriend to not touch me in the genital area or think about sex, I said we could kiss and cuddle but not have sex for a couple of months. She agreed to this and is supportive. I hope this is the correct decision I made. Lmk in the comments if this is a smart way to go about bringing back my senses to my dick.
 
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iwander

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cheeseck said:
DAY 3:

Hitting the gym with my girl today and later going shopping. Just doing things to hangout. I advised my girlfriend to not touch me in the genital area or think about sex, I said we could kiss and cuddle but not have sex for a couple of months. She agreed to this and is supportive. I hope this is the correct decision I made. Lmk in the comments if this is a smart way to go about bringing back my senses to my dick.
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Hey congrats on achiving day 3!. You are really lucky with a girlfriend that supports and you can open up with) I can't really say if your decision is correct but I hope this helps https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/rebooting-porn-use-faqs/rebooting-with-a-partner-what-about-sex/. Also I don't know if you've read this (long read) https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/mis...-has-not-prepared-your-brain-for-todays-porn/
 
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Moore0

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cheeseck said:
Hey man! I appreciate it. and congratulations on the 45 day streak! Yeah Even I had so much anxiety after first PIED and I didnt know what was happening until it happned EVERY time I wanted to have sex. That is the main reason why I want to get through this. How is your PIED now? Is it recovered fully or getting there?
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Right now I would say I am 80% and believe me I didn’t think it’ll reach this stage this early because a lot of people report over 60days, flatlines etc . After 30 days it was at 50% but majority issue of what I had was anxiety at day 30 wondering if I attempted if I would fail and I couldn’t concentrate on the acts when I tried engaging with my girlfriend , I have also detailed my journey on a thread maybe you can look through and see . Some days you’ll be soo horny you want to fuck by any means some days libido drops but regardless remind your brain you are in charge and you call the shots
 
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cheeseck

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Moore0 said:
Right now I would say I am 80% and believe me I didn’t think it’ll reach this stage this early because a lot of people report over 60days, flatlines etc . After 30 days it was at 50% but majority issue of what I had was anxiety at day 30 wondering if I attempted if I would fail and I couldn’t concentrate on the acts when I tried engaging with my girlfriend , I have also detailed my journey on a thread maybe you can look through and see . Some days you’ll be soo horny you want to fuck by any means some days libido drops but regardless remind your brain you are in charge and you call the shots
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Cheers bro! Yeah SO what I told my girl was to avoid any sexual contact for 30 days. On the Day 30, I said we should try and take it slow. I told her to slowly touch and see how hard I get and If I think I am 100% hard then we can go on and have sex. if not then I will have to stop and continue this PMO and No O for more days.
 
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cheeseck

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iwander said:
Hey congrats on achiving day 3!. You are really lucky with a girlfriend that supports and you can open up with) I can't really say if your decision is correct but I hope this helps https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/rebooting-porn-use-faqs/rebooting-with-a-partner-what-about-sex/. Also I don't know if you've read this (long read) https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/mis...-has-not-prepared-your-brain-for-todays-porn/
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Hey! Thank you for the link there is a video I checked out on there! helps me. and I even asked my girl to have a look.
 
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cheeseck

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DAY 4:

Today is a great day! its snowing outside and I am here sipping on mu coffee and looking at cars hah I think I found my new addiction CARS. Hopefully cars wont give me a limp dick too :ROFLMAO: but anyways, I am just going to be home today and doing some long overdue cleaning. Normally there would be a high chance I would relapse but my willpower is still super strong. I deleted all kinds of explicit content and accounts from social media. This shall help.

That's all for me today! See you tomorrow and BE PRODUCTIVE!

Peace
 
SmokenMirrors

SmokenMirrors

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cheeseck said:
Merry Christmas everyone!

While all of you had a nice Christmas, I will tell you how it went for me.

So I have been dating this girl for a year now. Every time we wanted to have sex, it wouldn't get up. I blamed it on performance anxiety or "oh I didn't get enough sleep". But last night my girlfriend was super turned on and I felt helpless. This really hurt her and her. I am super blessed to have a girlfriend who actually listens and understands that its okay to not get a boner. But she was unaware that all this is caused because I consume porn on the daily basis.

TODAY I opened up to her and she still was super understanding and offered to help me through this. I haven't had sex for 2 years now and I really want to get back and feel good and have sex. I get a boner when I watch porn but not when my girl touches me or tries to turn me on. Today is Dec 25, 2022. My birthday is on Sep 19, I have 9 months I want to recover from this really bad.

Can anyone tell me how long it usually takes to reboot? I have tried to quit porn and masturbation and my max streak was 1 month but this time I am willing to extend it for a long. I want to change.

Today marks DAY 1 and I will come back every day to write about my day and how I went to keep myself accountable. Feel free to drop your journal in the thread. An accountable partner is a must!

Oh and a little about me, I am 23 years old and I have been watching porn since 13-15 years old (don't quite remember when I started). I have been in multiple relationships until age 21 and I have had sex a lot. But only lately I am facing ED. I hope this is since I have conditioned my brain to porn and can be fixed.

See you tomorrow.
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Hey king! First of all, you have yourself a good woman there. Seriously, do not let her go!

Reboot times vary from person to person. I made great progress in my first 100 days and then I made more progress by 6 months. Don't worry abou the long term though, deal with each day as they present themselves! I recommend journalling here every single day, it really helped keep me on the straight and narrow! Drop me a message if you ever need anything, best of luck king
 
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cheeseck

Member
SmokenMirrors said:
Hey king! First of all, you have yourself a good woman there. Seriously, do not let her go!

Reboot times vary from person to person. I made great progress in my first 100 days and then I made more progress by 6 months. Don't worry abou the long term though, deal with each day as they present themselves! I recommend journalling here every single day, it really helped keep me on the straight and narrow! Drop me a message if you ever need anything, best of luck king
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Thank you so much! Yes I am going to journal every day until I get this habit out of the way.
 
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cheeseck

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Day 5:

Last night I couldn't sleep. I was having great anxiety and just feeling super horny. I was having a lot of shitty thoughts and my brain just asking me to touch myself and look at girls on my phone. But guess what? I was so determined that I told myself, I don't mind staying up all night and having these thoughts but I AM NOT GIVING IN. It is currently 7 am and I am up and started my day.

I am just surprised by how much my brain has been affected by my actions throughout the years eh. its crazy but its a new day today! let's conquer it. I also hit the gym today and spent time with family.
 
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SmokenMirrors

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cheeseck said:
Day 5:

Last night I couldn't sleep. I was having great anxiety and just feeling super horny. I was having a lot of shitty thoughts and my brain just asking me to touch myself and look at girls on my phone. But guess what? I was so determined that I told myself, I don't mind staying up all night and having these thoughts but I AM NOT GIVING IN. It is currently 7 am and I am up and started my day.

I am just surprised by how much my brain has been affected by my actions throughout the years eh. its crazy but its a new day today! let's conquer it. I also hit the gym today and spent time with family.
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I had a few nights like these, it makes it all that much sweeter when you beat the poison! Proud of you bro!
 
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cheeseck

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Day 6: (Almost a week god damnn)

I can't remember the last time it was this easy to reach 1 week without PMO and MO. let alone even touch my PP. But here I am! Last night I felt a lil anxious but I think my brain is understanding that it has to learn to live without porn. I could however pass out just after a little while and woke up fresh. I had a 70% ish morning wood but it quickly went away.

Tomorrow is New years eve and I am going to link up with my girl but I asked her not to touch me in areas that will turn me on until Day 30. But I will please her bc she doesn't need to be sober from sexual contact. (Still not sure if I indulge in sexual contact, but Ima see how it feels) Previously I used to not get hard when I was pleasuring her. Only used to get slightly hard when she gave me a head and it would last like 30 seconds before I had a limp dick. but I remember when I was 19/20 (I'm 22 now) I used to get a hard-on or at least semi-hard when I finger the girl (ex's) or caress them. So I am kind of waiting for that to happen again with this girl who I am in love with.

Have a good day ya'll.
 
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cheeseck

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Day 7!

I was feeling generally low and agitated during the day yesterday, and felt like I had a flatline throughout the day and night. But that's good bc I wasn't having any cravings to watch P or touch myself. I also slept really well last night (I was surprised tbh). I had a morning wood but I cant recall if it was 70% or 80%. I really feel like I can live without PMO and P in general.

I am meeting w my girl today and just spending time so I will keep updated on how I felt etc..

See you guys tomorrow. Have a nice NYE.
 
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