Hey guys a sort of quick - albeit critical post.
I left this forum for some time and really deepened my recovery.
It's been over 5 yrs without mo'ing to porn. And about a year without any glances at porn. No mo in some time. Successful sex and much of what I dreamed of when I first came...
Hola - lo siento pero no escribo bien el espanol. Pero entiendo lo que has escribido.
La cosa mas importante es no mira porno! Tambien estara bien no hacer masturbation. Despues de unos mesas podras a tener una ereccion con tu novia. Es dificil pero puedes hacerlo.
Had a nice victory today - kept me cool in a tense situation. Really want to keep that in mind. I can often be cool in tense situations, I want to incorporate that into my self image.
Meditation was lovely and so was visualizing. A very winning combination for me
Had a nice morning. I was a bit easy with myself in a good way. I have been wanting to just relax and read - usually I like doing this in the evening but had kept falling asleep. I laid in bed and occasionally closed my eyes and rested it was really nice.
I'd been feeling not so calm for a few...
Keep going strong man. As much as this sucks I think the lapse may have been a part of your recovery.
I didn't want to impose but reading your story it always sounded to me like the vast majority of your issues were porn related and not the physical problem. Doctors don't understand PIED so...
Hey guys.
So a few challenges
Sexting and fantasy
One of the girls I am/was seeing we sometimes sext and I got compulsive with it, it can sometimes be a similar reaction to porn, though not nearly as bad. I discussed the issue with her. But she is very "open minded" so some of the sexting...
Hey lil update. Was tempted to fantasize but it'd lower my erection quality .
I met a lovely girl
Yesterday -
I have set a goal to have sex with a new woman ( I have two semi regular sex partners)
Man when I opened my journal it was accidentally to the first page and I was BlueHeronFan...
Stay strong bro.
yes rewiring is crucial for the erections. I found it doesn't matter how long abstinent if porn ( though it's very good) gotta rewire and learn to get erections again.
Yeah I think so. The porn is the first thing to handle.
Another thing that should help with both is REPLACEMENT. Find some of what you get from the hyper sexual behavior and aim to replace it with other things.
For example a big thing for me was EXCITMENT - doing more sports and adventurous...
Update: So much stricter now. No more sexting.
Saw girl last night ( different one)
Wow it was great - really good sex and intimacy. Was a little lazy in the morning laying around in bed, but overall it was really nice. Just lots of cuddling and stuff.
Aiming to start seeing more girls but...
Hmmm - so with one of the girls I am seeing we sexted a bit and then did some sexual stuff that was a bit too porn like.
Notice my erection is less good after - like it activates the porn pathways. So attacking this now, is a big step.
Almost like success and some complacence. But now...
Quick update : the work is so worth it guys.
had probably the best sex ever in my life . Wow it was great. Felt a great connection, long lasting erection, totally present. Wow.
Improvement will be continuing and perhaps up and down but it's so nice to have a great experience like that...