I'm 32 and married. Addicted for 15 years. Chronic health problems. Tried and failed for the majority of that time. Learning constantly but finding it hard to imagine a life of 'freedom' from this vicious cycle that is damaging my life.
It's reached a point where I am doubting some of the most important things in my life, like whether or not I really love my wife, if I enjoy my work, if my life could be better on my own in another country. This is stress talking, which has been compounding for a long time. Anxiety, guilt, shame etc - as a result of years of PMO.
My wife doesn't know about my problem. Of course I feel guilty from keeping something so important, but I know it will destroy her and us.
Today, I realise just how unhappy I am when amidst this struggle. Hence me doubting everything. I know the theory of positive thinking, keeping busy, meditation etc - the many various techniques to help ourselves, and when I do practice them, it's good. Really good. But yet I keep falling back into the trap of not helping myself. Perhaps it's not caring for myself.
I'm going to avoid saying things like "this is the last time" etc. I've been doing that for years. It's about the time when push comes to shove: feeling the draw to pmo and deciding to make a stand and replace the feelings with something productive, or appropriate. Something healthy.
This post is just to share who I am and where I'm at. Just trying to focus on reducing anxiety, being mindful and staying positive and realistic. As best as I know how.
It's reached a point where I am doubting some of the most important things in my life, like whether or not I really love my wife, if I enjoy my work, if my life could be better on my own in another country. This is stress talking, which has been compounding for a long time. Anxiety, guilt, shame etc - as a result of years of PMO.
My wife doesn't know about my problem. Of course I feel guilty from keeping something so important, but I know it will destroy her and us.
Today, I realise just how unhappy I am when amidst this struggle. Hence me doubting everything. I know the theory of positive thinking, keeping busy, meditation etc - the many various techniques to help ourselves, and when I do practice them, it's good. Really good. But yet I keep falling back into the trap of not helping myself. Perhaps it's not caring for myself.
I'm going to avoid saying things like "this is the last time" etc. I've been doing that for years. It's about the time when push comes to shove: feeling the draw to pmo and deciding to make a stand and replace the feelings with something productive, or appropriate. Something healthy.
This post is just to share who I am and where I'm at. Just trying to focus on reducing anxiety, being mindful and staying positive and realistic. As best as I know how.