aquarius25
Respected Member
I am hoping that I could get some ideas from some of the men about how to handle the sensitive moments of trying to get our sex life back on track. What is the best way to be encouraging when he isn't getting hard? I am trying to be supportive, encouraging but I end up feeling like I don't know what to do so I hate to admit it but sometime I just walk out. I know that is probably the best thing but I honestly don't know what to do. I feel like talking about it might make him feel worse. Even when we are just messing around but not having sex the fact that he is not hard bothers him, I can tell. He does take Viagra from time to time so we can actually have sex but I find he doesn't last long enough for me to reach O and then he feels like he let me down. My worry is that will make him feel worse about himself which in turn could result in a relapse.
We both thought that the physical touch of a real person (me) and not porn would be helpful to the rebooting process but maybe we are wrong? I just want to do whatever I need to so that I can be as helpful as possible. Thought maybe some of you could lend a perspective? Please. I would really love to have some sex, lol. I am pretty ready but I don't want to be pushy on him. This is so difficult.
We both thought that the physical touch of a real person (me) and not porn would be helpful to the rebooting process but maybe we are wrong? I just want to do whatever I need to so that I can be as helpful as possible. Thought maybe some of you could lend a perspective? Please. I would really love to have some sex, lol. I am pretty ready but I don't want to be pushy on him. This is so difficult.