Welcome to the forum, man!
For what it's worth, I think the difficult thing in giving up an addiction is making a clear choice to do so, and sticking to it. It's so simple, really. And really hard.
There's a guy called Noah Church, who has alot of time clear of this thing, and now coaches other people. He has his own you tube channel. In an interview with Gabe Deem he once said '100% commitment is alot better than 99%'. I think this is right - with 99% commitment when addictive thinking hits you e.g. 'just one more time...that clip was so juicy I need to see it again....I PMO'd yesterday, so I'm not doing much damage if I do it again...I'll explode/go crazy if I don't give in soon...it's been 3 weeks so I'm doing really well, a little peek now and I've still made progress....If I don't tell anyone it hasn't really happened, has it?....so long as don't look at this type of porn, this other type is probably ok....' and all the other crazy stuff we think, we'll eventually we'll give in, we'll have that moment of weakness. That's how it is with 99% commitment.
So then, how do you get to 100%? I'm not there yet personally every day, but I feel like I am some days. And I'm having more and more of those days. And those days are so easy, in a way. The cravings might be intense, but I know I won't act on them. It's almost like they are not me. I just say to the part of me that craves, ' sure you're in pain. But I'm just going to get on with my life thank you. I'm simply not interested in giving you what you want'.
So to ask again, how do we get there? I think it's worth spending some time reflecting on your porn use. What are the good things about it? Be really honest, what do you get out of it? There must be something right? Then, what are the bad things about using porn? What do you lose, what does it rob you of? Time? Money? Interests? Then look at stopping using porn. What are the good things about that? How would life change for the better? What would you do instead? Finally look at the downside of stopping porn. There is one. You have to face withdrawals, for example.
Make the list thoroughly and go through it regularly, not just once. Each time ask yourself, with all these pros and cons am I willing to give up? If you can say 'yes' you are already alot closer to 100%. Having thought through the whole situation very carefully it become easier when withdrawals hit, for example, to say, 'OK, I knew this would happen, and however I feel now, I know giving up is for the best'.
Those are my thoughts anyway. Take what's useful and leave the rest.
Best wishes on your journey to freedom!
AT.
