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Welcome galante!
Have you already read much on www.yourbrainonporn.com ? There are many stories from straight men who experienced HOCD, or had their interest in sexual activity drift toward gay, shemale, and a wide variety of other fetishes because of exposure to porn and an escalation of changing stimulation that went along with their PMO addiction. Much variety in their individual processes of recovery, but when they stuck with their reboot, they did recover. For that matter, there are also stories from gay men whose tastes similarly shifted with porn. After rebooting, they returned to their orientation as gay men.
So, it's not unusual for PMO to cause such problems as yours. But now that you know what the problem is, you're in a position to work on fixing it!
Keep journaling, and keep up the fight!
NC
Have you already read much on www.yourbrainonporn.com ? There are many stories from straight men who experienced HOCD, or had their interest in sexual activity drift toward gay, shemale, and a wide variety of other fetishes because of exposure to porn and an escalation of changing stimulation that went along with their PMO addiction. Much variety in their individual processes of recovery, but when they stuck with their reboot, they did recover. For that matter, there are also stories from gay men whose tastes similarly shifted with porn. After rebooting, they returned to their orientation as gay men.
So, it's not unusual for PMO to cause such problems as yours. But now that you know what the problem is, you're in a position to work on fixing it!
Keep journaling, and keep up the fight!
NC
maledictis
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Hi Galante i worry about that too. I worry that if i carry on watching porn i will turn gay or pedo or violent or sex offender cos i read that its just a matter of time. I saw a really violent clip last week, didnt turn me on at all, actually turned me of i felt a bit shocked and i was sorry for the woman she was being punched quite hard i wish stuff like that didnt happen with humans but i fear it may start to turn me on in future, theres the progression thing. And yep i have the voice questioning me and telling me im gay in my head even though i dont watch gay porn doesnt turn me on I think porn is just melting together all the wiring in my brain. And still i have to watch it or else i feel and act like shit. I guess im dependent!!! I need it to feel normal. If i dont use p i cant mo and within 2 days im feeling terrible. I'll keep trying. thanks
OldHornyGuy
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Hi Galante,
I also partially lost a wife due to porn addiction (we had other issues as well) I have survived without her, but my relationship with my kids was also damaged and I am trying to repair that. I have found a wonderful woman that understands, and I have also come a long way in my recovery (much of it before I found this site).
Find a counselor that you can work with in addition to whatever support you can get here. If you can't go cold turkey at least try to change/restrict what you do (like give up chat rooms for now). Get out and get social. Don't go out and drink: join a club or gym or something where you can talk to and meet people in a non-sexual way.
It does get better. It really does.
Peace.
I also partially lost a wife due to porn addiction (we had other issues as well) I have survived without her, but my relationship with my kids was also damaged and I am trying to repair that. I have found a wonderful woman that understands, and I have also come a long way in my recovery (much of it before I found this site).
Find a counselor that you can work with in addition to whatever support you can get here. If you can't go cold turkey at least try to change/restrict what you do (like give up chat rooms for now). Get out and get social. Don't go out and drink: join a club or gym or something where you can talk to and meet people in a non-sexual way.
It does get better. It really does.
Peace.