Being a gay male we have places to hook up i stumbled on this when i was 16 after 5 years off being sexually abused by an older male cousin, i thought by doing these gay beats that i would find love and affection but it never happened. As i got older and found gay clubs i would yet again be used by men for sexual pleasure, i always thought something was wrong with me so got into porn porn porn then acting this out and becoming like the men i met when i was younger. I have had relationships that ended up in me still using porn and anonymous sex, now in recovery i am trying to go back to basics and use dating sites but they are not working for me. Most of the gay scene is about porn hooking up for sex etc etc
I am abstinent and it really hurts