InChrist said:
Fellers,
I find it hard to converse with women, even with not jerking or watching porn, I just find it hard to start conversations with em. I'm a shy, introverted guy, full nerd!
On like 4 or 5 dating apps, none of which I get messages on, even if I've sent messages to girls on them.
I am in church, involved in a young adult group, but no girls have caught my eye, the ones that might have, have kind made it clear that their not interested...
Whats a dude to do???
Hello InChrist,
If you're looking for
ways to start conversations and improve your communication skills, I'd recommend these:
Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus by John Gray
When you have time to do some browsing, search "conversation starters", and make a list of your favorites.
Instant Persuasion by Laurie Puhn
The Temperament God Gave You by Art and Laraine Bennett
Go to your library and check out their joke section--you can also set time to search for favorites online.
Get involved in group activities that involve facilitated discussion, like book discussion or Bible study groups.
Volunteer in your community.
If you're looking for
ways to get conversations on dating apps, re-examining the impression you're giving is key. There are tons of amazing articles online, just do some browsing. Take a look at your profile picture, how you're describing yourself, the best things to say in a first message, re-check your grammar and make sure you have your contact info listed in your description if it's not a free app. I can give you more specifics if you'd like.
If you're just
worried about being single, I'd encourage you to embrace it! Personally, I feel called to the single life, and one book I found to be a fantastic read in this regard was "Single: The Art of Being Satisfied, Fulfilled and Independent " by Judy Ford. But if you want to have a relationship eventually, use this time to prepare. Study the common psychological differences found between men and women, learn about what keeps a marriage from ending in divorce, deepen your prayer life, work on your flaws, learn about managing money, spend time with young children, develop a career. Furthermore, take this opportunity to do things that will be harder after kids arrive. Travel, volunteer, take community classes, graduate from college. Have fun, be your best-self and nerd out!
I hope these suggestions helped, good luck!