Hello Rider and everyone else...
I agree with you Rider that I no longer have any idea what a "normal" sexual response really is, for myself or anyone else. On the one hand, I feel like I am just about the horniest guy in the word and that no one could possibly sexualize women more than me. But then again on the other hand, I see and hear about people doing things (in the sexual realm) and I have to honestly say, that I would never do such a thing. For example a female friend just posted on her FB page that someone posted on her wall that they would "like to F" her. I can't even imagine doing such a thing and I am a sex addict!
I have had other female friends relate stories of being hit on or catcalled in public, and again, I just can't imagine doing such a thing! Now granted, I understand we all have different issues with our sexuality, but still. I don't feel so bad in that department.
Back to myself, once again I feel in the danger and to be honest even talking about it here makes it a little worse.
The last two months have been very long. I have been teetering on being completely broke. I don't see my kids as much, especially now that my daughter has graduated. I have a todo list that is long and keeps growing. I am working 6 days a week and not getting nearly enough sleep. The only good news in all of that is, all in all, the urges to go back to my former habit are not all that strong. I certainly have urges, but they are not all that strong and I am able to resist them pretty easily. For better or worse, I still focus more attention down there than I should, but I am not seeking out stimulation or Ming at all.
With my SO, I am feeling, well, I don't know what I am feeling and it is making me feel stupid. On the one hand, she is a great woman and would do anything for me. And I really appreciate that. However, I am just not feeling it, especially when it comes to our sexual relationship.
She still has big problems being able to orgasm with me. Every time I think she is improving, the next time seems three steps back. Today was a three steps back kind of day. I hate being "that kind of guy" but her inability, though I try to understand it, really does bother me. I just cannot get her there on a consistent basis, and it really is bothering my ego.
And for myself, I can honestly say that I am not much better. My ED is much improved. I still don't get spontaneous erections, but I get hard fast enough when it is time. I can pretty much last as long as I would like, it is not DE, as I can finish any time I would like as well. I have also reached the point where I don't much think about what is happening down there, it just seems to work almost every time, so I don't give it much thought. So that part is OK. My mind, however is totally screwed up.
Even though she is a great woman and great in bed, I just cannot get the idea of sleeping around out of my head. This makes no sense at all. I am not a pickup artist in any sense, never really had casual sex with anyone. But yet, this is what my brain seems to want, totally illogically. We went out with a group of friends last night and the new woman in the group was all I could think about. Fortunately, I did not embarrass myself in anyway (that is to say I was not hitting on her, etc.) but the idea of making it with the new girl is still very strong in my head. This makes me feel like a bad guy and really is getting in the way right now. I am not 100% sure that she is "the one", which is totally fine, but she at least deserves my full attention when I am around.