offaxis
Active Member
Hello,
I'm struggling with the concept of "healthy mastubation" and would like some input around exactly what you guys do and activities.
No More Mr Nice Guy defines "good sex" as:
How does this apply to masturbation?
I find it too easy to become goal oriented (orgasm) or view it as a chore. It is also difficult to remain present and avoid fantasy, although I am getting better at that with time.
So what specifically do you guys do? Turn down the lights, take the time out, relax, schedule it, think "I'm going to have sex with myself tonight" or what?
I get that it's experiential.
How did you go about developing healthy mastubation and what is it like for you?
I'm struggling with the concept of "healthy mastubation" and would like some input around exactly what you guys do and activities.
No More Mr Nice Guy defines "good sex" as:
Good sex consists of two people taking full responsibility for meeting their own needs. It has no goal. It is free of agendas and expectations. Rather than being a performance, it is an unfolding of sexual energy.
How does this apply to masturbation?
I find it too easy to become goal oriented (orgasm) or view it as a chore. It is also difficult to remain present and avoid fantasy, although I am getting better at that with time.
So what specifically do you guys do? Turn down the lights, take the time out, relax, schedule it, think "I'm going to have sex with myself tonight" or what?
I get that it's experiential.
How did you go about developing healthy mastubation and what is it like for you?