I want my life to be real!

[Addict528]

I'm 22 years old, and I'm on my third day of no porn or masturbation. These first three days have been FILLED with research! Which is is I found YourBrainOnPorn and this site. Wow! I didn't realize how it truly changes our brains. I started when I was 11 and I've always tried and failed to break the habit. My record is 7 days. Imagine that. Since I was 11 I have only had a record of 7 days without masturbating.

I have the best, and most caring girlfriend in the world.


I need you guys' support! I need an accountability partner that I can exchange emails with. Please, if any of you would like to volunteer, we can help each other.

 

[Never_again]

Welcome on RN buddy and good luck with your reboot,

The good news for you is that you seems to be very motivated to get rid of that addiction, and the second good news is that you have a excellent reason to stop PMO'ing : your girlfriend.
You have a great relationship with what seems to be an adorable girl. Realise right now that your addiction could destroy the relationship you have with her now, that would be too stupid..

How about normal sex with your girlfriend? Don't you feel satisfied enough only with that? Do you have any erection issue? Do you realise you could get this kind of problems if you keep PMO? And this would definitely jeopardize your relationship..

And if you need an accountability partner, send me a PM

Good luck with your reboot,

Never_Again

 

[Addict528]

Thank you for responding!!! Actually I'm a virgin by choice. My girlfriend is also. Which surprises me because is literally a knock out. People say I am very good looking but I have always been humble about myself and because I grew up in a Christian home, I vowed from the beginning of my puberty to never have sex until marriage. But it's not perfect, we used to frequently masturbate each other and we justified to ourselves that we were still keeping our virgin promise. That just made things worse, she didnt and still doesn't know about my addiction, and masturbating with her just conditioned me to think of her as a sex object. It got bad. I became irritable, she couldn't "connect" with me, and I just told her because it was a hard day at work. I really didn't know the issue. But bow I know it was because of porn. 

Ok I will PM you! I am on day 4. I think the personal accountability will help us both a lot. Congrats on day 6

 

[knx37917]

Although I am a few years older than you, our situations are similar as far as reaching the breaking point.

The addiction to instant communication apps, sexting, and personalized objectification of women is what I am struggling with as well.

I began this second reboot attempt 3 days ago as well.

Hoping that we and others can continue to learn from and support each other in this journey.

You're not alone, man.

 

[Addict528]

Been going strong for 6 days now, excited that I will have met my 7 day previous goal from a few years ago. I quit PMO back then more different reasons, mainly out of guilt. Obviously guilt didn't last forever so I wasn't strong after that. Guilt only influenced me to seek help this time around. To find this and other sites. The focus on positivity, the accountability, and all the success stories are far more motivating! Plus I refuse to continue being a porn addict when I marry my girlfriend. That road will NOT work. My motivation is strong and my spirits are up. I've been working out again for the first time in 8 months, have started reading books again for the first time in YEARS, and have felt that my creativity has spiked! I also feel so much more excitement for recreational activities like my scuba diving hobby. I also can't wait to pick wakeboarding back up when I get back to my home state.