Reboot_Dude
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I've been rebooting since July this year and have come from a point where I was suffering from a totally dead penis with a wonderful girl. Since then I haven't touched any porn at all and have only slipped and MO'd twice. During this time I have however made contact with girls online, including a couple of weeks browsing Tinder and a few raunchy chats, and tried to organise some hook-ups so I can try to re-wire and show myself I've made progress. In hind-sight, I think this probably didn't help me.
Today I had an old friend visit me, I'd known her for a very long time and had never had any kind of physical contact before with her, but I had told her about my situation and she agreed to help. It did feel a little odd I admit, 15 years almost as friends and we were suddenly kissing and then pulling off clothes. I had got to a point where I've been getting regular nightly erections and felt like I had made progress, but when presented with this girl in her underwear in my lap I could only manage a 20-30% erection. (There may be a few potential triggers in the next two paragraphs...)
She tried to go down on me and nothing happened, so I went for the last resort and gave myself a little stroking. This got me to about a 70% erection and she went back to going down on me, that's when things got much better as I got a full-on erection and within about a minute I came in her mouth - something a girl has never ever managed to make me do before in my 35 years. The fact I had been without an orgasm for so long probably helped that!
From then on I only managed to get it up if I started it off with my hand and it never got hard enough to have actual PIV sex, which we did try for. I made her cum twice through other methods so it wasn't all about me, but I eventually lost the will to try and jerked off onto her ass, which I realise was probably something I shouldn't have done.
I'm extremely disheartened, I really thought I had made progress, I felt different, but in reality nothing much had changed other than the blowjob success. This girl had a good body, but just nothing was happening in response to it. I did put pressure on myself though as I was hoping this would be me fixed and I could get on with my life, I also think that the fact the situation was so unnatural was an issue, it felt strange being in that situation with a person I only had platonic feelings for. But ultimately I think that would just be an excuse!
So... what the fuck? :/ Do I just keep going? How the hell do I ever approach another girl knowing I'm likely just going to be useless in bed?
Today I had an old friend visit me, I'd known her for a very long time and had never had any kind of physical contact before with her, but I had told her about my situation and she agreed to help. It did feel a little odd I admit, 15 years almost as friends and we were suddenly kissing and then pulling off clothes. I had got to a point where I've been getting regular nightly erections and felt like I had made progress, but when presented with this girl in her underwear in my lap I could only manage a 20-30% erection. (There may be a few potential triggers in the next two paragraphs...)
She tried to go down on me and nothing happened, so I went for the last resort and gave myself a little stroking. This got me to about a 70% erection and she went back to going down on me, that's when things got much better as I got a full-on erection and within about a minute I came in her mouth - something a girl has never ever managed to make me do before in my 35 years. The fact I had been without an orgasm for so long probably helped that!
From then on I only managed to get it up if I started it off with my hand and it never got hard enough to have actual PIV sex, which we did try for. I made her cum twice through other methods so it wasn't all about me, but I eventually lost the will to try and jerked off onto her ass, which I realise was probably something I shouldn't have done.
I'm extremely disheartened, I really thought I had made progress, I felt different, but in reality nothing much had changed other than the blowjob success. This girl had a good body, but just nothing was happening in response to it. I did put pressure on myself though as I was hoping this would be me fixed and I could get on with my life, I also think that the fact the situation was so unnatural was an issue, it felt strange being in that situation with a person I only had platonic feelings for. But ultimately I think that would just be an excuse!
So... what the fuck? :/ Do I just keep going? How the hell do I ever approach another girl knowing I'm likely just going to be useless in bed?