Starting Reboot - Fake profiles on dating sites and porn ruined me

[enzomartins]

Hi guys, this is a great site.

I'm starting my reboot today. Porn was messing with my head and I was losing erection with my girlfriend, or didn't have erections at all. At first I thought it was normal, and maybe I just wasn't so attracted to her anymore. It's not, it's this damn porn addiction messing with my head.

I already knew porn was a problem but I never did a "total reboot", only occasional, but as soon as I felt normal again, I went back do porn.
I was not addicted only to porn but also to creating fake profiles on dating sites, just to talk to beautiful women and exchange some fake nudes. This is even worse than porn, because you start to live a lie, you feel like total shit.

I already tried some small reboots and it totally killed my libido for a time. Now I'm determined to end this habit for good. Wish me luck.

Have a nice day with no porn, everyone!

 

[HereInUk]

Good luck man. Reading that reminded me of my ways. Looking back I feel I was sad and pathetic but now I feel a little liberated and actually have more time for myself and the woman I love. I tried in the past to stop but always went back to it, so this time I've deleted absolutely everything, installed k9 software on computer to remind me not to do it. I've also started exercising more and a better diet. Whilst my libido is down after 2 weeks now I feel good in myself and always wanting to spend time with my partner. Use her as your reason to stop and you will get through it.

Good luck

 

[enzomartins]

Thank you for your answer, man.

I also deleted all the porn I had in my HD, more than 30gb of porn. As soon as I watched the reboot videos about the rewiring porn does in our brain, I deleted it all, including all the nudes and webcam captures I acquired with my fake profile which I considered real trophies (it's lame and pathetic, I know). I already did this once, but a long time ago, and I couldn't delete ALL the porn at the time, I kept some ex-girlfriend porn. Now it's all gone.

About the ED, I thought I was having it not because of the porn in itself, but just a matter of a satisfied libido, like when you already had sex for the whole week and then you don't have the same sex drive. It's false, this stuff really rewires your brain so you can only get a boner sitting in front of your computer and watching porn.

Also, it's not only porn, it's masturbation also. Your brain get used to the hand stimulus, and as soon as you stop the stimulus, you lose your erection. My erections are not long lasting and are not rock solid anymore. Also after it happens for the first time, you lose confidence, and it will happen again and again.

The media won't stop saying porn and masturbation are healthy. All that bullshit about knowing yourself. I figured out I don't need fucking porn to get to know myself and what gives me pleasure. Porn is very dangerous, and some people throw away their lives for it. I don't consider my case extreme. I have 28 years, have my job, etc, and even not using porn A LOT like others, this is happening to me.

I may talk to my girlfriend about it, if I lose all my libido during this reboot. But I'm confident I won't need it.

Thank you all for the support. Spread the word with your friends, this is a taboo subject but we need to address it.

And sorry for my bad english, it's not my first language.

 

[HereInUk]

Your english seems pretty good to me. Sounds like your in the same boat as me. I haven't felt the need to look at porn since I realised it was a real problem, I still have the odd urge though, and I get irritable at night. But other than that I'm doing ok. Just hope my libido will remain.

 

[Sam90]

I did the same you have done..porn and fake sex chat..and I'm now 45th day of my reboot..I know i have  serious ED...no much progress in erections but there is much more personal development... we must be patient while rebooting that's wat I learned during these days..past week was very much tougher for me(so much craving ) but fortunately overcame that with my will power...hopefully we can succeed..(sorry for bad English  )

 

[enzomartins]

Thank you both for the support.

Told my girlfriend yesterday. She was a little shocked and hurt, but I think she understands and will help me to overcome this.
I still didn't make sex with her. When I do, I'll report here for you to know if I had any progress.

 

[enzomartins]

Hi guys, just updating.

I had sex with my girlfriend this weekend and it was very good, I didn't have any erection problems. I'm still cautious, though.
I felt I had a decent erection, and I could actually feel my penis, which I didn't the last couple of times.

I think I'm in the right path. Now I'll have sex with her only in the next weekend. Hope I can survive this week without relapsing and without the chaser effect.

I optimist and I think it can be even better next time.

 

[Brett1983]

Hi guys, this is a great site.

I'm starting my reboot today. Porn was messing with my head and I was losing erection with my girlfriend, or didn't have erections at all. At first I thought it was normal, and maybe I just wasn't so attracted to her anymore. It's not, it's this damn porn addiction messing with my head.

I already knew porn was a problem but I never did a "total reboot", only occasional, but as soon as I felt normal again, I went back do porn.
I was not addicted only to porn but also to creating fake profiles on dating sites, just to talk to beautiful women and exchange some fake nudes. This is even worse than porn, because you start to live a lie, you feel like total shit.

I already tried some small reboots and it totally killed my libido for a time. Now I'm determined to end this habit for good. Wish me luck.

Have a nice day with no porn, everyone!

Am in a similar situation as yourself. Your notice your brain flash memories of porn to you. It will try and send you so many cravings until you get really aroused and then all of a sudden flatline. Ive had periods of being very aroused and period of just having no lidido.

 

[enzomartins]

Am in a similar situation as yourself. Your notice your brain flash memories of porn to you. It will try and send you so many cravings until you get really aroused and then all of a sudden flatline. Ive had periods of being very aroused and period of just having no lidido.

Yes I'm also alternating between periods with a lot of libido and periods with no libido. Sometimes I think about porn but I'm trying to supress these thoughts, I try to think of my girlfriend.