"Thing is though after this I'm not sure I would trust anyone again, and if I were to leave and try to start a new relationship with someone else I would probably suspect them of being a closet porn addict too! as it seems to be so common!"
Yep, this is definitely a thing you don't shake (I haven't anyway). Not that I suspect them all of being PA, but there's now an association with males as shady and dirty. This didn't exist in me previously.
I find myself perpetually having an attitude of distance. I'm very aloof with men. My laughs are not heartfelt, my amusement half-measure, my smiles not warm, my interest casual at best.
What's amusing and interesting now to me is how they don't even notice how reserved I am. They are so exceedingly single-minded ("you're so beautiful" etc) they don't even notice my smile never reaches my eyes.
Yep, this is definitely a thing you don't shake (I haven't anyway). Not that I suspect them all of being PA, but there's now an association with males as shady and dirty. This didn't exist in me previously.
I find myself perpetually having an attitude of distance. I'm very aloof with men. My laughs are not heartfelt, my amusement half-measure, my smiles not warm, my interest casual at best.
What's amusing and interesting now to me is how they don't even notice how reserved I am. They are so exceedingly single-minded ("you're so beautiful" etc) they don't even notice my smile never reaches my eyes.