Hello everyone! First of all English is my second language so every sentence might not be perfect, but I will try to make myself clear. I have decided to start this journal for my own sake, to keep track of my own process and help me avoid watching P and M. But if this journal will help someone else in struggle, that will of course bring me joy. If anyone experience the same things as me or have a question feel free to write!
Bakground
Im 25 years old I have M and watched P almost every day since i was 13 years old, the P might even have started a while before M, because i was curious and had internet access.
I first discover this when I stumbled across "The great porn experiment | Gary Wilson | TEDxGlasgow" on youtube. It was really an eyeopener for me, I had never thought P could cause this much damage, I had always thought P was OK because I always heard that M was natural and healthy for boys. I saw P as a part of M, not as two separate things
At first it tried to reduce porn to weekends, I could not do it.. and I realised i was addicted to it.. I could make it a (normal) day or maybe two if i was alone (my girlfriend and I dont live together), but after that i started to watch again.. So last Sunday I decided to stop watching P all together and completely stop M, only sex when me and my girlfriend are together. I have decided to put up "milestones", my first is a month.
The reason I want to do this is because the more I read the more I discover things in my behavior and in my past that might be P related. P and M is also a big part of my "free" time and I want to spend that time and energy on other things. Here is a list of things that I want to improve, that might be P related. Even if just some of them gets better i take this as a win.
Bakground
Im 25 years old I have M and watched P almost every day since i was 13 years old, the P might even have started a while before M, because i was curious and had internet access.
I first discover this when I stumbled across "The great porn experiment | Gary Wilson | TEDxGlasgow" on youtube. It was really an eyeopener for me, I had never thought P could cause this much damage, I had always thought P was OK because I always heard that M was natural and healthy for boys. I saw P as a part of M, not as two separate things
At first it tried to reduce porn to weekends, I could not do it.. and I realised i was addicted to it.. I could make it a (normal) day or maybe two if i was alone (my girlfriend and I dont live together), but after that i started to watch again.. So last Sunday I decided to stop watching P all together and completely stop M, only sex when me and my girlfriend are together. I have decided to put up "milestones", my first is a month.
The reason I want to do this is because the more I read the more I discover things in my behavior and in my past that might be P related. P and M is also a big part of my "free" time and I want to spend that time and energy on other things. Here is a list of things that I want to improve, that might be P related. Even if just some of them gets better i take this as a win.
- Better self-confidence: Sometimes I feel like im not worth enough, weird and strange. Like everything I do is wrong.
- Women as equals: I want to see them equal humans beings, not greater or worse than guys. I sometimes get nervous around really beautiful women.
- Stop thinking about every women I see in a sexual way: I guess watching P and M almost every day really screws up your sexuality and put it into "hyperdrive".
- Normal relationships: When i talk to a friend that is a girl I almost always think of her in one sexual way or another (even though I only want to be friends with them). Im also ashamed to admit this but my biggest focus in my current relationship is about sex, even though I know my girlfriend is a really nice and beautiful person. My love to her should be on the main stage, not sex.
- The feeling of wanting to escape when I hold some conversations: This one is really big, sometimes I just want to escape and be alone when I talk to people one on one, sometimes even friends! Even though I want to be there and spend time with them.
- Calmer in crowds: Sometimes I feel really uncomfortable in big crowds.
- The bad feeling after sex: Sometimes I get a really bad feeling after O when I have sex (WTF is up with that? ), just like the feeling after O to some really weird porn.
- More energy in my daily life
- I almost immediately think of sex or P when i get bored, want to change that, change my focus to other things and experience a richer life
- More hobbies
- Improve my relationship with friends and social circle